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I've been meaning to share this story somewhere because it's really scary. I'll first own my part in this by saying that if I hadn't been drinking as well I would have been more cautious and smarter with my reaction as well, though alone or with friends who are not so desperate for male validation and attention I know I would never have been in that situation since I never have been or haven't been in since.
I'll start: I was abroad in Europe earlier this year, and dating someone. I became friends with a younger girl let's call her E. We met through uni and she was nice though very naive and desperate to date anyone (mostly men she met through Tinder), even men she proclaimed were ugly. She also self-proclaimed herself a slut since she slept with men within a date or two to see "what they were packing". Back to my story: earlier this year, E's boyfriend of five months broke up with her, due in part because she kept calling him ugly when she got mad and other nonsense that just showed he wasn't that into her. (side note: this guy was lovebombing her at the start, but the whole time they were together, told his friends intimate details about their sex life). E was very upset and wanted to blow off some steam at a bar, after massively drinking at her place, I went because I figured I should probably keep an eye on her. I had one drink and lots of water because I was already a bit drunk. I go to the bathroom and turn my back on E for 5 minutes. I come out and she was gone and I found her at a table far away with this large group of people, mostly older guys. E was shaming me for not wanting to "socialize" while she was telling a large group of strangers her whole break up story, how ugly her ex was, how he was shit, where we went to school, even who I was dating, everything. I'm just here quietly watching these men (plus girlfriends) mock and make fun of her while she's embarrassing herself (I stay quiet because she didn't believe me when I told her these people were laughing at her). They try to talk to me but I don't engage much because I can sense something's up. We start leaving and still walking with them and (E still doesn't believe me when I tell her these guys are bad news), they start "flirting" then out of nowhere one of them "jokes" that he can't set me up with his friend with blue eyes because he doesn't like arab girls (E told them what my preference was), I had enough of this obnoxious pricks "humour" and got annoyed at the unwarranted racism and replied "well I don't like every white guy" with an attitude. Now here's the scary part. They started talking in a group, one of his buddies who I had said two words to literally wanted to rape me, or even gang rape me because I was cute and because of that one reply I should be "taught a lesson on how to speak to you". They were talking about who would be easily seduced and fucked and all(E would be easy and I would be hard and that made me an even more exciting target) and I was only spared because using degrading, racist and misogynist language guy number one according to E "the guy who you were rude to defended you". E came to her senses and helped calm me down since me showing signs of losing my temper was "provoking him" I was drunk and furious and I'm a fighter since I was previously coerced but without knowing this is what E said "why are you acting like this? do you know martial arts or something? have you been raped before and you're not afraid of it or something? well I am and I don't want that to happen to me so calm down", but throughout those scary few minutes this guy I barely knew wanted to assault me in "a dark corner, the night is young" all because I talked back to his racist buddy. That's it. My dumb ass followed E into this unsafe situation because I wanted to watch out for her while she was drunk off her ass while she "would have left me there and ran - but gotten help", thinking we were so stupid these guys invited us to a party at their place the next weekend because though mr.racist "defended me" he still wanted his buddy to have another chance with me. Due to the alcohol I guess I also later went with her to confront her ex somewhere else in the street while he was with his friends (she stalked him a bit) I became stone cold sober when I realized she didn't just "want to talk to him" but cry and freak out and punch one of his friends in the chest when she was being super emotional. I got very very lucky that night, but being friends with a pick me desperate for male validation nearly made me into another statistic. I was friends with a dumb pick me desperate for male attention and she put us in an unsafe situation and the morning after ? jokingly blamed me for nearly getting her killed or assaulted. Pick mes are not your friends.
As you raise your vibration, you’ll learn that you absolutely cannot be friends with pick mes because they’ll bring you down every time. I was friends with a pick me recently, I felt bad for her bc we knew each other since high school but somewhere along the line she became a grasping pick me and it was sooo hard to deal with her.
* she was super negative and would talk shit “no guy will drive to see you” meanwhile I had a man drive a hour each way 4 times to see me (he had to get me, take me to dinner in his city, then drop me off and then drive home no asking for gas nothing)
* the peak was when she started talking to this abusive LV bum and he insisted on meeting ME. Absolutely not because I don’t associate with trash but she still tried to drive him to MY house. I had to tell her I’d fight her if she ever brought anyone to me house and cut off the friendship immediately.
* your pick me/ low vibrational friends will absolutely hate on you especially as you soar high through life, drop them, never be with them and men, exit immediately if you find yourself in the situation and never look back
I’m glad you dropped her. Unfortunately, pickme women can be predatory even if unintentionally or even straight up sex traffic you.
i dropped all of my “friends“ who didn’t care or pretended to care when I found myself in awful or even unsafe situations with men. you have to vet your friendships as you do with romantic relationships because they can make or break you as well
Yep. You learned the hard way, like we all do, that even other women can get us into trouble with men. I knew girls in college who would drink themselves into a stupor around these drunk males, and then you know what happened. He said/she said, and usually, nothing happened to the males who raped them. I saw that and stayed very sober everywhere I went. I have always carried a weapon on me, too. I would only hang out with girls who didn't go home with guys and who had my same morals. And if I couldn't find a girl who was safe, I'd stay in and study. Unfortunately, women are physically weaker than men, and we cannot afford to further weaken ourselves with pickme's as friends or alcohol. The outcome is never good for the girl. It's sad that we're not safe in public because of male aggression, but I don't see it changing anytime soon.
Pick-mes are as dangerous as men, just in a different way. I'm glad you made it out in one piece.