Am I being too harsh judging my friends’ fwb? Lmao.

Ladies, the second you find yourself saying "well I can see his side" you're gaslighting yourself. As someone who did this to myself for years, that's the red flag you've entered pick me territory. This isn't a court case, there's no need for a fair, balanced perspective. Her opinion and preferences are the only things that matter.

This FWB offers zero benefit to the woman. Christ will come before she does.

I never understood fwb. You let a man who doesn’t respect you enough to date you, and wouldn’t piss on you if you were on fire, stick his BV, ureaplasma, HPV, yeast-carrying dick in your most sacred place. Huh?

He's doing the madonna whore thing. She doesn't deserve respect because shes a slut to him. And if she were a good woman in his eyes? He'd ask for commitment, then chase sluts lol. She needs to take a break. Even in my pickmeest days a disrespectful fuck buddy can get blocked. I can't even imagine how he would treat a girlfriend.

Argh, it’s always the young girls whom I continuously hear saying: “…but I can see his side too”, and I don’t know what sort of crap they have been fed at school and elsewhere to think that, but there’s clearly a trend. This friend needs to tame her compassion and examine it with wide-eyed cynicism.

1. people who have fwb's are gross 2. your friend is a pickme.

Friends with benefits is really friends with detriments. Your friend is coming across as male-identified and desperate. See where he’s coming from? After he openly disrespected you?? Girl bye.

I always feel like FwB’s never actually benefit women. It’s always for the guy :/

You're not being harsh.

She needs to wake the f up.

She's being dishonest with herself.

She doesn't want FWB.

Her emotions and behaviour are saying so.

And worst of all she is giving this sht validation and entitlement.

This is how women get murdered.

We are not objects.

He actually mentions his comfort matters, but nothing about her comfort.

And then he victimizers himself by saying: if you're going to keep taking it out on me.

She has a right, a duty even to defend herself against abuse.

She's getting angry about him using his phone but missing the bigger picture or his pattern of behaviour towards her.

She's doing it deliberately at this point coz you've told her.

You must be so frustrated with her not valuing your advice.

I give advice a handful of times and if I'm not listened to, I disappear coz these women know that they're giving a sht confidence to carry on abusing women.

You're not harsh enough, you can have compassion first couple of times but she's actively invalidating your advice.

To be clear though, he is the bigger problem and I'd focus more of my anger on him, the abuser, coz if he didn't deliberately abuse her, you wouldn't be dealing with her unhappiness.

So confused by this. Because if I was hanging out with a friend I wouldn't be on my phone the whole time

Oh my god, complex, too much effort. It would be much simpler to just date people and look for a real one.

He doesn’t have any respect for her. This is why you should never be friends with benefits. The benefit is only for a masochist pick me. I’m sorry, but seeing women disrespected like this and then saying I understand where he’s coming from' is just so infuriating. Grow some love for yourself, girl, wtf.

It's so sad what some women will settle for. They think they can eventually win these men over, but the longer they stay, the more respect scrotes lose for them.

lol, he has her on tap and she gets to feel all that. What a fantastic trade off. I wouldn’t expend the energy. Let her come to her own conclusions.

I'll never understand why a woman would ever want a man, who doesn't want her enough to be in a proper relationship with her??? Sounds very pathetic and screams zero self-respect. I can only feel sorry for such women.

I dont my use my phone with my friends either what is he talking about?

Regardless, she needs to see the truth that he doesnt care about her, which he kinda did by saying they should be fwb. I have never understood this agreement. Its not good for sexual or emotional health and you dont get the actual benefits of a relationship.

I don't see the friendship or benefit with this guy. He sounds like an ass.