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Before I found fds, I came across this data. I think that was the moment I felt doubtful of splitting bills 50:50, especially since this was also around the time I learned about "weaponized incompetence", how domestic labour is never 50:50 and women always end up doing most of it, and most importantly how men don't even consider unpaid labour real work!
You could be overwhelmed with being a domestic servant, never sittingdown all day because your kids keep running around the house trying to kill themselves. And your husband still remembers you as "the woman who never had to work in her life". They think your life is a perpetual vacation! They openly say you never do anything all day!
Okay, a little off topic. On the other hand, content creators like Shera7 and Universe Guru have their husbands and sons doing all the house work and cooking despite being stay at home spouses.
This tiktok for me is the heart and essence of FDS. This is FDS's reason for existing. A HVM doesn't need to be rich. It doesn't matter how much money he makes, or how much you make. What matters is the dynamic that the difference between your incomes create.
Which dynamic encourages him to give his best to you? What makes him wanna take care of you If he won't do it for you he'll do it for her (now we know "her" makes less then him). Why can't men treat you just as well no matter how you make compared to them?
By the way, a job will never cheat on you, treat you worse for succeeding, or financially ruin you.
That video was great and explains so much. As soon as a woman stands up to her partner that, she's actually smarter, more accomplished, more worldly, more well read, more talented, whatever else, he gets flustered and already starts planning in his mind how to secure his next new partner who isn't as intimidating to his ego and/or who from his office can become his affair worker to soothe his little boy fee fees.
It's even to the point that men, despite their insistence that they get with an outrageously attractive super model-type, STILL cheats on her because her beauty compared to his ugly mug makes him feel bad. Yes, I'm talking about you, Adam Levine.
You really cannot outshine men in any way possible, unless you want to get cheated on. They want to be the best looking person in the entire room and the woman next to him a joke compared to his inherent greatness.
Ppl always try to guilty trip me into thinking that dying alone with cats is my future if I only think of my career and making money. But what do 98% of women on their deathbed say ? "I wished I did this or that, I wished I followed that dream," All of them have children and had men in their lives but probably not the success they wish they had and never reached their true potential.
And when it comes to achievements, I know it's true because a friend of mine is doing her Batchelor and her man is struggling with his own degree and he wants her to drop everything and support him emotionally. She left his ass and finished her degree and has a good paying job, imagine if she listened and dropped out of university to cater to a man child and have him leave her one day and he and the rest of the other men will brag that women are below men when it comes to success.
Making sacrifices for men will not make them stay longer, giving them a baby will not make them view you as a woman worth chasing, building him up will not make you win the jackpot.
You are just betraying yourself.
Promise yourself right now that you will never put yourself or your dreams second place or below for him in your own life, after all Education and your career are the only companions for life.
They are doors that will never close in your face, Men's so called unconditional love is trivial.
They can change like turning off a light switch. They can replace you, walk away even on your deathbed. Men have no shame and will always do what's best for themselves behind the nice guy act.
Chase dreams not men.
Chasing dreams never leads to regret, chasing men will.
And they wonder why single women are happier.
This is 100% facts!!!!!
Men know housework sucks. That’s why they refuse to do it and want a woman to be his maid.
Seriously - let’s all make sure we don’t exceed our own capabilities so men don’t feel bad 😂
agreed. i know all of us are here for some semblance of relationship success but the core of FDS is not romance as neither will the main strategy be to 'level up' if so.