Always be ready to WALK AWAY.

We all grew up as that young girl being chronically insecure and hyper-concious of the people around us.

Because shitty people of both genders, regardless of age, just couldn't keep their mouth shut and always have something to say about you.

Do you remember? You got VILLAINIZED for liking a damn smoothie.

So OF COURSE you are gonna carry that chronic insecurity and hyper-conciousness into the dating world.

You aren't sitting there just to "be polite and not hurt his feelings".

Sis - he has been boring hole into your dress and talking nonsense about bitcoin and bullsh*t for the past 2 hours -- you are wayy past "being polite".

You are sitting there because you are TERRIFIED of "the people".

People will talk.

People will judge.

People will glance at you and whisper among themselves.

Why? Because people have mouth, they are bored -- so they say stupid bullsh*t. Regardless of what you do.

No amount of you staying nice and being polite will stop "the people" from whispering about you with their gangs.

So what if they are complete strangers and have absolutely no idea who you are? They still gonna whisper to their friend's ear -- because that's just how people are.

It's got NOTHING to do with you -- human beings are like that. They saw something interesting going on -- they talk and whisper among themselves.

It is not good, it is not bad -- it is just HUMAN.

You see, most human beings majority of the time will behave in a human way - neither too good nor too bad -- but grey. All sorts of grey.

You are not a saint.

You are not a martyr.

And you are also not the evilist evil to ever evil in the history of evilness.

Just because you choose to be grey and prioritize yourself over that man's "feelings".

Which is not the actual truth anyway -- it's got nothing to do with his feelings, it is about how "the people" will perceive you.

See? That's the grey right there. Deep deeeep down -- it is still about you, the you that desperately wants to protect yourself from "the people's" judgement.

The big news is that -- they will judge anyway. Judging why the f**k are you still sitting there smiling and being polite to this creepy ass man.

So why not choose the grey that BENEFITS you the most;

And just WALK AWAY?

You have been wanting to do that anyway, don't you?

Sitting there, you are trying to prove that you are [different].

You want to "educate" him.

You want to fight the "good" fight.

You want to "prove" to him (and "the people") that you are different.

You want to show that you are "a fighter" and not someone he can make fun of with his bros.

While sitting there on pins and needles the entire time, and completely lost appetite because there's a weird odor permeating the table.

At some point you do need to ask yourself -- to whom and exactly why are you trying so damn hard to prove your "worth"?

Because that is exactly what it is -- a SHOW to prove that you are "cool" and not easily bothered by stuff.

(You know unlike those other women)

I get it, you are not one to give up at the first sign of difficulty -- you chillin' and not easily disturbed -- you ain't sensitive samantha.

But be that with all other, much more beneficial things in your life -- not with a damn man on a damn date.

STOP desensitizing yourself to the audacity and atrocity of man that are suppose to COURT YOU.

WALK AWAY at the FIRST SIGN of his bullsh*ttery. Even if you just don't like the way he button his shirt. Just walk away.

Cut the meeting short. You are going to hurt his feelings (ego) anyway -- so be efficient with it.

And let him (and "the people") talk about how you are the cruelest, selfish, narcissist, evil, [insert insult here] woman he has ever met -- and get used to it.

Do it again, and again, and again. Until it settles in your bone.

Be the woman that is always ready to WALK AWAY the MOMENT he starts slacking off.

Be it on the first date, during the engagement, or even after decades of marriage.

Why?

Because you know the value of 'tactical retreat'.

Don't be mistaken -- you are not someone who "can't face challenges and gives up easily".

You are the woman that knows what the truth is.

You know out there on the battlefield -- you are OVERWHELMED.

Love bombing.

Gaslighting.

Mind games.

Weaponized incompetence.

Word vomit.

Subtle threats.

And couple all those with your own chronic insecurity and hyper-conciousness of "the people"?

No wonder even the rich women with amazing career and superb intelligence can fall into abusive relationships.

Because you are OVERWHELMED on all sides -- you don't even have a moment to catch a breath!

And the patriarchal society that we live in is happy to help him keep you down and confused.

Scare you to death with "Nobody wants you if you keep being stubborn" and "You are gonna die alone and lonely!" and blah blah blah.

Yet you are sitting there on pins and needles the entire time, and completely lost appetite because there's a weird odor permeating the table.

Who told you, growing up -- that you can't simply walk away from men that act like sh*t and treat you like sh*t because it is "rude" and "only evil b**ch do that"?

That's right -- the patriarchal society that we live in, and is happy to help him keep you down and confused.

Otherwise how can they keep their beloved men happy?

You didn't walk away to be "cruel" -- you walk away to keep your sanity.

You walk away to collect your thought and see the bullsh*t for what it truly is.

You walk away for your safety.

You walk away because you refuse to be treated like sh*t by a sh*tty ass man and his sh*tty ass society.

You walk away because your prioritize yourself.

And let them talk, they will get tired after flapping their mouth for hours anyway.

Always be ready to WALK AWAY. At any point in time, and in life.

Stay safe, STAY WOMAN.