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"Pretty normal question in my opinion"
"Trying to determine if you guys would spend time at your place vs his"
"Maybe just out of curiousity with no deeper meaning"
"Normal"
"It's kind of a polite way to gauge someone's financial situation"
"Many women have asked me this"
Any comments stating the obvious creepiness of this question was downvoted. This is on a very large dating sub for a popular app (not tinder).
The only answer to this red flag question is, "Why? Are you homeless?"
TBH it really depends on the context and how well are you familiar with the man. It could have no deeper meaning. HOWEVER, admitting to strange men that you live alone is extremely dangerous. People pretend like organized rapist gangs and sex trafficking is not a threat until it happens to them or someone they know. These gangs specifically target women who are alone. I'm a foreigner and men who hit on me almost immediately ask if I'm here alone. I always reply that my mom and dad live near by and they will be coming to visit me. This is not true, but GTFO trafficker.
I mean... that is clearly a creepy reason, don't they see that? She's known that guy for a week and they have never met in person and he's already trying to find out if they could "spend time (aka have sex) at her place"? That's not an innocent question.
Also no innocent reason. Why would he want to know HER financial situation that early? Hobosexual-alert. Maybe he's looking for a mealticket and a place to crash because he is actually homeless.
And that doesn't even consider the most creepy reason: finding out if there would be witnesses if he tried to follow her home or harrassed or hurt her while they are there.
He wants to come over and have sex with her. Consensual or not. He could be a hobosexual looking for free shit. He could be a murderer. Who can really say anymore. Lol.
I see it as making sure there isn’t any eye witnesses (rapist) or a hobo trying to romance his way into your home. Always lie!!! I had a creep that asked me if any men lived there, y’all! YALLL!!!! You should always assume the worst with men because they don’t have your best interests at heart normally.
There is something wrong with men who view basic safety precautions as a personal insult.
Echoing all the responses here. The only reason a man inquires about something like this is to use you somehow. Either getting you into bed asap or freeloading or both. Additionally, he should know not to ask this question upfront as it is a major red flag for a woman's safety. Some manipulators aren't very smart.
I was asked this multiple times on dating apps...it always skeeved me out and I unmatched. Why you gotta know scrote? They're essentially asking, "how vulnerable are you? will there be witnesses when I assault you?"
"You live alone or have roommates? Why do I ask? Because I need to know if we can fuck comfortably at your place or not."
He’s either looking to see if he can have sex with you immediately, because you don’t have roommates, or he’s looking to have sex AND move in with you. Either way, none of his business and a red flag.
It could just be making conversation - my female friends ask this question all the time - but to be safe I'd avoid answering it.