Age gap in reverse, thoughts?

In theory, I don’t think there’s a problem. There are a few things to be wary of though:

1. Most men want to have kids one day but often not until they’re in their 30s or 40s. By which time you will be approaching or will have already reached infertility. They might then dump you to find someone younger.

2. If a man is MUCH younger than you, like 10 years or more, he might be looking for a mummy figure. This is not fun. He will exhaust you, emotionally and probably financially too. I wouldn’t recommend dating someone who earns less than you unless you’re earning an unusually high salary.

3. A lot of younger men will date older women as an ‘experience’. They have no intention of settling down with this woman but just want to try the older woman out before finding someone his own age to get serious with.

I noticed men my age look way older than me. I want to be with a guy that looks and acts a similar age to mine but so many men are immature and don't take care of themselves physically.

Even the healthnut gymbros neglect their skincare, hair, hygiene and fashion sense. By "health nut" it's usually steriods along with tons of processed and low quality protein so I wouldn't call that healthy. It's better than the average American diet but not still healthy in the slightest.

Also, nowadays the younger generations of males are often just as or even more pornsick and misogynistic than the old farts so they creep me out too.

Even guys that are 5-10 years younger than me often look way older than I do. Like bruh, how can you neglect your appearance THAT MUCH?

I've pretty much decided to stay single for life. Unless some hvm comes along but I doubt that'll happen.

Younger, older, the same age. They're all scrotes. Just in different ways.

I only have ever dated men younger than me since I didn't date till mid-twenties. I can't say any of them have gone well for me, but the men my age have always looked like shit to me, and i look younger than I am.

I have always tended to be attracted to, and attract, men about 3-8 years younger than me in terms of looks. And I want to enjoy looking at the person I'm dating.

I would date someone attractive of my own age or maybe 1-3 years older than me, but I just never really see ones who I'm not grossed out by. I figure if most of them will turn shit within a few months then may as well only entertain ones I am attracted to.

And it does attract men who want a sugar mama or just like a mommy figure. I was unaware of that for a while but now am cautious of it.

I never thought about this, but I'm glad you brought this topic so I can share my experience with dating a younger dude. I'm 26 and my now ex-boyfriend is 21 (I broke up with him two months ago because I couldn't handle it anymore lol) and I can assure you that there IS a difference even though five years doesn't seem like too much. He was immature, a mommy's boy, he was not only a virgin (which there's nothing wrong with that) but also pornsick, which affected our sex lives. I think it's a generational thing, I don't know why but Gen Z'ers are more addicted to porn and lewd content that people from my age group, but I could be wrong. I ended up being like a motherly figure to him, this may sound mean but it literally felt like dealing with a little child that needed his mom's attention 24/7 or otherwise he will pout and throw a tantrum, I swear. He lovebombed me a lot in the beginning of our relationship and that's why I fell for it, because I wasn't used to men showing me affection and attention. Yes, I've been the girl that chased the guy and made the effort but the guy couldn't give two fucks about it, I know, embarassing. Ok, I'm already venting too much but the most aggravating thing that made me realize how much of an entitled prick he is happened on his birthday. We were chilling at his place and he expected sex but I didn't want to and I told him that, and his response was to give me the silent treatment and scrolling through his phone with an annoyed expression for at least five whole minutes, and even though he didn't violently force me to do anything, I ended up doing it anyways because I felt guilty and like I owed him that. When he finished he told me ''I love you, you always spoil me so much'' like I was supposed to feel better because I did that for him. We were together for a few months after that and I ended up breaking up with him via text message because I didn't feel safe with him and I couldn't deal with an emotional breakdown from him (I also live far from his city so meeting to tell him in person was a really bad idea). Oh, and currently he talks shit about me on Twitter because I left him over text, making himself sound like the victim and making me look like the cold-hearted bitch. Yes, I am the cold-hearted bitch, and? Bottom line is, my advice, if you're in your mid-twenties or early thirties, please don't date a younger guy, because probably most of them will be immature and pornsick like my ex was. And we tend to overestimate the wisdom that comes with age or experience, but if you're a woman with self-esteem issues and the need to please everyone, it is likely that a man younger than you will take advantage of it anyways. So be careful, ladies! Hope you have a great day ♥ (By the way, I'm not a native English speaker, so apologies if that was a difficult read)

I’ve always gone for slightly younger — 2-4 years typically. It was subconscious at first, but apparently that’s just what I like and the better men I’ve dated have been a bit younger than me. I don’t think I’d go more than 5 years unless he was exceptionally mature for his age though.

Men do age like wine... they turn into vinegar. Sour and overlooked until the chips come out.

Women age like cheese... we mature enough to start sidling away.

As a woman who's 55, who did have a traditional age-gap marriage before, and who was attracted to older men, these days, YES ALL THE YES to a reverse age gap! Younger men are generally more respectful, usually having been raised by single moms. There's less of a chance of caregiving.

As usual, my personal twist is I insist on living apart together, so for me he'd also have to be just as much of an introvert to really get that and appreciate it. I would absolutely prefer these days to date someone 40 and up, and I admit I'm iffy about men my own age. Too many expectations of being taken care of like their fathers were. Hard pass to that.

I've dated men who are older, men just a few years younger and a couple who were almost half my age.

Their level of maturity was all about the same.

Do with that what you will.

I'm speaking from instinct.

Big age-gap relationships, no matter the genders, give me the ick. Yes, love is love, and many happy age-gap relationships exist. But more than 10 years between any genders disgusts me. You just know something not right is going on.

If he's a HVM, go for it.

Depends on your actual age , like if you are 30+ then 5 years younger is not really younger.

Income wise it's your call whether you want to become a breadwinner. I'd stick to compatible professions though regardless of income for compatibility reasons. Most dating expenses should be on him regardless.

I generally date men slightly younger than me, and it’s yield far better result than my friends dating “older men.” Younger men are not controlling, respectful and looks better than guys my age.

Good looking men my age are taken and the ones lefts are fugly. I can’t stand to even think about touching them.

I'm 32 and guys 10 years younger than me look like my age. I honestly can't even tell.

My partner is younger than me. His whole friend group is dating older woman currently. The age gap is couple of years or so I think.

When I was at age 36-38 or so I attracted the most of men younger than me. They were all men who wanted to have a kid NOW and rushed me into a relationship even though I had already decided I didn't want more children than the one I already have. Many spoke of wanting kids and tried to talk about this very early. Like inappropriately early.

It's a weird particular age range to become a target for men who want incubators and I don't know if it was just me, but it was younger men at that time. They were usually about 30-34 years old. They seemed to think that because I was a single mom of a child, I must want a next babies daddy like a do-over or something.

I think because they started to feel their own clocks tick that they thought to seek out a women who they thought had a ticking clock too. They wanted someone desperate for (in my case, more) children before it's too late, who they could move quickly with.