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This viral video is starting to make rounds:
(Only video I could find on youtube, just mute it if you don't want a narrator and schmaltzy music)
First impression might lead you to believe that this indicative of someone who is a great partner, a great father, a great person that any woman would be lucky to have. But remember, lovebombing is a thing. Maybe he just does this one thing and never cleans up at all. Or he yells at this woman at home all the time.
You might also believe this a property that expands to every man. That one man represents all men. You might start becoming naive again, might stop vetting your respective partners so hard. Bad, don't let down your guard because you see and fantasize yourself in this woman's place; that will allow low value men to take advantage of you and you'll tolerate shitty behaviour just for a glimpse of a grand gesture that might happen for you.
Be careful when you see a video like this.
this sounds pessimistic, but i believe it is best to focus on the negative when you're looking for a relationship and when you are already in one. it's part of being ruthless when vetting. he takes you to date nights and washes the dishes? ok, great. but what about that time he cheated? he has never cheated? ok, but what about his sexist jokes about you in friends and family gatherings?
this type of conversation reminds me of that series "big little lies" where the wife wouldn't leave the abusive husband because he was sooo good with the kids.
the most insiduous aspect of bad relationships is the habit of focusing on the good part and ignoring the bad part. you can appreciate the good while paying attention to the bad. keep in mind all of your non-negotiables and expand that list if you feel necessary. your safety adn happiness (including that of your children if you have any) matter more than then the good things that still keep the relationship hanging by a thread.