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Many men chase and marry women, just to end up treating them like shit anyways, despite the initial pursuit and eventual commitment.
“I’m so in love with her 😍”.
Meanwhile, his “dreamgirl” is getting ready to be a perpetual maid, hairless cat, therapist, cook, (basically) single parent, breadwinner, and fleshlight who experiences zero orgasms. Oh and let’s not forget insomniac- his late night porn habit makes it real hard to sleep.
His desire to marry you does not automatically equal the capacity to treat you well. Please know that his desire for marriage does not eliminate the need for ruthless, intensive vetting.
The question shouldn’t be “does he want to marry me?”. It should be “what does he want to marry me FOR?”. If it’s not to cherish you with love and affectionate actions forever, become an instant track star. 🏃♀️
Please be the bad bitch I know you are and vet ruthlessly to avoid the dusties who use marriage to trick women into giving unpaid labor. Thank U. ☺️
I think this is another case of "do not reward/praise the bare minimum".
Culturally, if you like a person and want them to be your partner for life and the mother of you children, proposing to them is the reasonable and expected next step pretty much everywhere. It's not a special, rare, amazing thing (of course the proposal itself should be special and amazing on an individial, personal level, but wanting to marry someone you like is normal and has been normal for all of human history of pretty much every society). It's the normal, culturally expected step to show that you are serious and want to commit to that person. Not too long ago, wanting a woman to do "wife-things" for you before she is acutally your wife was a faux-pas and scandal of enourmous proportions and something no man who valued his reputation could do.
Culturally, it was (and in many places and cultures still is) normal, everday business for a single woman of the right age to have multiple suitors asking for her hand in marriage and for her (or her family) to make a choice between them.
Marriage is slavery for women. It's not a compliment if they want you to clean their dishes and be a free surrogate. It's not about genuine love with men.