I blocked and deleted immediately.
This is in South Korea, by the way. I've lived here long enough to know how men treat woman on dates (they pay for everything and wouldn't dare ask a woman to pay a dime).
How DARE you invite me out, take me to TWO expensive restaurants (his suggestion), then after seeing me off, send me a text asking to pay for half (without wishing me a safe ride home or telling me you enjoyed my amazing company)?
I dressed up while you showed up in converse and a polo. I looked DAMN good, was charming as hell, and displayed more personality than most of the local woman (their words, not mine) and you ask ME for money?
I'm so sick of men. Edit: I haven't logged on in a while, but to those screaming racism, I'm not sure where you're seeing that. South Korea is an infamously extremely racist country (with a president that is actively trying to stop foreigners from being able to own property, make over a certain amount of money, and marry locals), and despite this, I love this place and its people---I consider it my second home. To those commenting on the, "their words, not mine", I've had plenty of Korean men tell me that they prefer foreigner women because Korean women, "have no personality and are all gold diggers". These guys were blocked and deleted immediately because it's a huge red flag among foreign women like myself. A few of you also seem to think I'm somehow racist for pointing out something native Korean men have said to me about native Korean women. Reading comprehension is important.
"more personality than most of the local woman." Ouch. Do you even like other women?
I don't particularly care about what's allowed in one culture or another: we're all here because our cultures are shit and need changing. It's the attitude here that needs addressing
Ma'am, extolling your own worthiness by denigrating other women is not the virtue you think it is.
Well, I was with you till you said "more personality than most of the local women" was casual racism necessary?
This "not like the other girls" ending does not fit FDS. Please level up from pick-me mentality. You're not competing with local girls, you're supposed to be in your own lane.
I'll be honest with y'all, despite all the great things I've learned here, a girl is SCARED to date again because of this shit right here. Like how am I supposed to know if a man will genuinely pay for the dates even if he asked me out first? How do we vet against this from happening? Or how to avoid those dine and dash types that will leave us with the whole bill?
You sound like a PickMe who derives her self esteem from being othered as “better” by low value males. Yikes.
To OP: Just want to say that the women on this forum can be quite vicious. They will jump on any, and every inconsistency to FDS principles. I've been a brunt of this viciousness a few times. That said, it has shown me where I still make pickme mistakes.
Why did you stay when he showed up in a polo shirt and converse sneakers?
I used to live in Uijongbu. It was pretty rough, because I’m the antithesis of a feminine Korean. Tall, blond, blue eyes, and in the Army. But most Korean men were pretty nice to me and at least respectful. It was the women who’d say to me, ”Ooooh, you SO big! You no gain weight!” 😂 At 5‘-11”, I was kind of a circus freak there. No filter is one of the charms of Koreans—reminds me of my Slovak grandma—you will hear about it if you’re fat or displeasing in some manner. 😂 Just write this guy off. He’s a jerk which was evidenced by how he didn’t even dress up for the date. The Korean businessmen who took me out looked sharp and were gentlemen. They paid for everything and were glad to. They took me to sing no re bang, and they love singers there. You just met a bad one. Hang in there!
Isn't South Korea generally pretty scrotey, though? It's still a very misogynistic, patriarchal society as far as I've read. I wouldn't brush Korean women off as having less personality though. I also see people saying you're being racist with your comment but I thought most Asian cultures were more reserved in public as far as "personality" goes. Tell me if I'm wrong.
There is absolutely no way a man can force me to pay for a date. I would dine and dash. They can call the cops on me all they want. I'd rather be in a car chase with the cops. They will never catch me. If they do, then that's when I'd get a criminal record.
I love how everyone here is dumping on the LVM while also calling out OP on her racism🩷 this warms my heart