A dark truth about men

Brilliant comment @LayLow!

You've made comments that are so so sound.

The bit about men pining after women that cheated on them is like the guys I talked about in a post I made about how men want and never get over women who mistreat them.

I'm of the opinion that part of men's dysfunction is liking dysfunctional relationships and women that aren't any good for them. This type of guy that is fawning over a woman that cheated on him is the same guy who will mistreat a woman that's actually good for him and would be loyal to a fault.

i see you must have met my ex. He was so heartbroken over a relationship around that time frame of 18-22 (I met him at 28), his ex-gf cheated on him and he hated/loved her apparently. The thing is, guys like that usually did something that caused their then young/inexperienced ex-gfs to cheat on them because the bf was so overwhelming and behaved badly they probably had no other choice, that's my theory. My evidence in my particular case is my ex was very childish and horrible at communicating, he's a huge liar. Not trying to defend cheaters but something MUST have happened. edit: a word

I low-key always wonder if the dude is porn sick limp dick. It's mean, i know, but i only speculate that because of how common it is. Plus in my opinion if your man is not only completely disinterested in you but also porn addled, oggling other women, attempting to cheat and what have you - you're single lol

Also I can't stand a mf who is hung up on their highschool/college years. Whether it was their prime, or something tragic happened(like heartbreak) i just can't relate. I had a tragic teens but more has happened in my life since then. I feel like a crisis or success happens every few years, you know? So when they're all Nam vet over jessica dumping them in the library, I'm like "that's it?" Lol. Have you been in a time capsule for 10-20 years? Nothing has happened since then? Who has been babysitting you? How can i get me a decade of smooth sailing? Lol

Thank you for your comment!

This guy is too highly pathetic and manipulative. Why would anyone want to while away time and waste their life pining for someone that isn't interested? Why men do this to themselves is beyond me.

Why men can't just make the effort to want to be better is something I'll never understand. He and guys like him would rather manipulate women into liking them instead of actually being the guys women would want.

I agree that a lot of men are avoidant and lack emotional depth, which is why their relationships crash and burn with a quickness and as you said, is why they substitute actual connections with chasing after an ideal.

I think that when people don't invest time into getting to know themselves and developing a decent sense of self, their primary source of validation is going to be external. Hence why these men, who have a shallow sense of self, get their validation from female attention. Someone who doesn't validate them threatens that fragile state, so they get obsessive because it gives them an illusion of control.

100% agree that they should invest that energy into themselves and developing healthy self-esteem, so women could actually like them as people. But oh well, LVM *sigh*.

The guy I used as an example had good qualities, or we never would've connected in the first place, but instead of bettering himself he decided to spiral into this.

@Forest Nymph, your point is solid. It's so so true. That's why they behave the way they do and like you said, they don't improve themselves because of their low value.

It makes sense that you connected with this guy because of the good qualities he showed, only for his dysfunction to come out down the line.

Tell them movies aren't real life.

It’s less “misunderstandings” and more they’re naïveté is taken advantage of by predatory men. No HVM will stay with a delusional woman who acts like a Disneyfied pick-me.

I honestly believe this is what was happening with a recent friendship of mine. I've always been consistent with my personality and temperment, but I think she created her own mental image of what I "should" be like, and as we spent more time together, suddenly she had all these criticisms for me and all these assumptions about me coming out of left field. Anyways, I think you are absolutely right about this

Me too! The content she posts is very FDS-aligned.