Whenever men I've just met start disclosing their traumas to me I ask if they have a therapist for support. One even had the audacity to say "but I can just vent to you for free lol". Women are socially conditioned to act supportive and friendly even when it makes them uncomfortable.
There's a reason why this kind of stuff is left to therapists and close relationships. Even if you decide to matyr yourself to one of these men, they will respect you less and just use you. Then they will disappear for another woman they don't associate with trauma and venting.
Then they will disappear for another woman they don't associate with trauma and venting.
Oof, that part! This is also why they hate Barbara the Builders and Ride Or Dies so much despite pretending to like them a lot in the beginning. Men hate to be reminded of their inferiority and past transgressions. Once they level up in life, they want a woman to match that... by leaving the old girl behind.
Women are socially conditioned to act supportive and friendly even when it makes them uncomfortable.
I'm sometimes really getting mad when I look back at certain situations where I had male acquaintances trauma dump on me without ever considering how their behavior makes me feel. One of them was talking about how he gets ghosted on Tinder and how much it frustrates him that he hasn't found a girlfriend yet. Back then, I was still trying to be diplomatic and just told him to be patient and be comfortable being on his own, but he's completely deaf to this advice and just tells me I have no idea how it is to be completely alone... A'ight.
The sad thing is he used to be friendly and just fun to talk to in the beginning, but after a few months he started showing his true colors. I know him from university, but I've now started to distance myself from him and implemented the fading method. Now that I've discovered FDS and started consuming FDS aligned content, I'm really face palming myself and wondering why I haven't just blocked him right after this conversation.
I’m an empath and in younger years always used to wonder why men just started disclosing to me. I was too safe, too empathetic, too sympathetic. That has changed big time. I will straight up tell a man, I’m not a therapist. Stop being cheap and go pay a licensed therapist. Don’t dump on me. It’s not at all nice and I don’t care because it is so fundamentally freeing. I return awkward to sender, make him responsible for his own issues, don’t feel drained or exploited, and gain his respect and more importantly, keep my own self-respect. Highly urge all women to speak up, speak out, draw those hard boundaries, and enforce consequences. Vote with your feet and walk if he keeps trying to disclose too much!
honestly think they spill the same sob stories to all their dates. I sat through half an hour of a guy b*thing about his ex wife accusing her of lying about having cancer and being a sociopath and financial problems and how he was raped before and just sat and listened but didn't offer any sympathy, do you think I was still able to maintain the respect by not doting on him? I didn't straight out say to get a therapist but I did ghost him after that. I actually think that it might trauma bond them to you lol and they'd wanna keep you around instead of bonding you to them especially if you didn't disclose anything about yourself like I didn't. He even disclosed he had an std which idk why a man would say that when we were just on a second date and hadn't discussed s*x bit I did clap back and mentioned I'm celibate
What gets me is people will read it and still legitimately wonder why women are leaving dating in droves. 62% of women aren't interested anymore, and those are 2020 stats. It's probably higher now.
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Dec 22, 2022
Ha ha. I like to look at the glass as half full. I’m happy to give them therapy on how not to be a scrotey-McScroterson and give them an FDS-based crash course on how to be a better man to women in general. Not like they’ll listen, but at least they can’t say they ”didn’t know”.
I heard of a woman who send a Zelle money request for emotional labour/therapy after being ranted to and trauma-dumped to for far too long XD, good for her!
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Whenever men I've just met start disclosing their traumas to me I ask if they have a therapist for support. One even had the audacity to say "but I can just vent to you for free lol". Women are socially conditioned to act supportive and friendly even when it makes them uncomfortable.
There's a reason why this kind of stuff is left to therapists and close relationships. Even if you decide to matyr yourself to one of these men, they will respect you less and just use you. Then they will disappear for another woman they don't associate with trauma and venting.
I’m an empath and in younger years always used to wonder why men just started disclosing to me. I was too safe, too empathetic, too sympathetic. That has changed big time. I will straight up tell a man, I’m not a therapist. Stop being cheap and go pay a licensed therapist. Don’t dump on me. It’s not at all nice and I don’t care because it is so fundamentally freeing. I return awkward to sender, make him responsible for his own issues, don’t feel drained or exploited, and gain his respect and more importantly, keep my own self-respect. Highly urge all women to speak up, speak out, draw those hard boundaries, and enforce consequences. Vote with your feet and walk if he keeps trying to disclose too much!
*And they still expect you to pay for the privilege of this date
Pathetic. Like leeches. They'll suck the life out of you, because it's free.
honestly think they spill the same sob stories to all their dates. I sat through half an hour of a guy b*thing about his ex wife accusing her of lying about having cancer and being a sociopath and financial problems and how he was raped before and just sat and listened but didn't offer any sympathy, do you think I was still able to maintain the respect by not doting on him? I didn't straight out say to get a therapist but I did ghost him after that. I actually think that it might trauma bond them to you lol and they'd wanna keep you around instead of bonding you to them especially if you didn't disclose anything about yourself like I didn't. He even disclosed he had an std which idk why a man would say that when we were just on a second date and hadn't discussed s*x bit I did clap back and mentioned I'm celibate
Oh, I see. These men can use us for free therapy, but we're gold diggers if we dare ask for the dinner dates to be paid completely by them.
Wow, that's the ACTUAL title of the article...
What gets me is people will read it and still legitimately wonder why women are leaving dating in droves. 62% of women aren't interested anymore, and those are 2020 stats. It's probably higher now.
Ha ha. I like to look at the glass as half full. I’m happy to give them therapy on how not to be a scrotey-McScroterson and give them an FDS-based crash course on how to be a better man to women in general. Not like they’ll listen, but at least they can’t say they ”didn’t know”.
I heard of a woman who send a Zelle money request for emotional labour/therapy after being ranted to and trauma-dumped to for far too long XD, good for her!