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There are many ways to use a person. Sex is just one of them. And in my experience when a guy is using a girl for sex, he might also ask her for advice, ask about the parts of her life he is personally interested in, trauma dump on her... but stay aware: he is still objectifying you if he's doing all this! Only now you're not only a sex object, you're an object of emotion validation and mild curiosity. Oh, joy!
So many young girls let themselves think, "oh, he told me about his childhood trauma and made me listen to his podcast after jizzing in me, he's starting to catch ✨feelings✨?"
No. Girl. No. He sees you as a receptacle for his spunk and all his frustrations and feelings of inadequacy. See how you're still getting used??
I saw this male lion lure a baby water buffalo away from its herd by pretending it was afraid of the calf. The calf would charge the lion, the lion would pretend to be afraid and run a little bit away. So the calf was emboldened and kept following the lion, until it was out of range for theherd to protect him. Then the lion pounced on the little calf and ate him. When men tell you their troubles, they're being like the lion...pretending they're hurt, afraid, and that you're in control, and all the while it's just a predator's game. He's trying to get you to feel sorry for him and be more attached to him so that he can separate you from the herd and pounce on you.