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This book I believe was recommended in the handbook, so I read it for nothing on my kindle membership. The author goes into many FDS principles. It has definitely been written a while ago because some of it has not aged well, but she makes some good points that are useful dating tips!
Here is what she said, going my memory:
In dating, Women are ruled by emotions, while men do not get emotionally involved. As a woman, you must learn to control your emotions, ESPECIALLY AT THE BEGINNING. Dont get attached to a man just because hes giving you attention.
Men primarily want p**sy from women. Pussy is a valued commodity - men will literally pay for access to it. Realise you are valuable just for having one . Therefore you must act like it, by not having sex with a man for at LEAST 2 months into dating. You must see your p**sy as something of value. Imagine its worth 13,000 dollars. Would you give this to a man for free after the first date, after you barely know him? absolutely not. Your p**sy is an asset, NEVER give this away for free. A MAN MUST EARN THE RIGHT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU.
Men's need for sex is their greatest weakness. If they go months without it, it literally starts to affect them mentally. Use this to your advantage.
Your time is valuable and limited, you must become busy and let men you are dating know you are a busy woman who does not mess around. Staying busy puts you in a position of power, and ideally you should be focusing on your goals. Think about where you want to be in the next year, 2 years and 10 years. Women who focus on their own personal goals and are not obsessed with men are more attractive, as men want what they cant have.
Keep your sexual history a mystery.
Don't be too available to men as this decreases your value to them. Think of it as a child when they want a new toy - if they get it right away, they will play with it for a few minutes then get bored of it. However if they had to wait, save up for it using pocket money earned from chores, they will cherish the toy when they finally have it. Men are the same when it comes to dating.
Men enjoy the chase. Use the "phone trick" to keep them on their toes - every time you are in a call with them, try to be the first to hang up, apologetically telling them you have to go.
Men who are interested in more than just sex will be your "prince charming". Ask them for help in a situation and watch them go an extra mile to help you - for example, if your car breaks down, do they offer to give you a lift and help you fix your car? (helps filter out the dusty broke men who are only looking to use you) When he goes out of his way to help you, make sure you show your appreciation to encourage these actions.
If you are too "easy" or sleep with a man too soon, they will brand you as a "slut" and a booty call.
Get rid of a man at the first sign of abuse or any red flag. Do Not spend your precious time and effort trying to fix him. He knows what hes doing, he will never change. If he tries to hide you, doesnt introduce you to his friends/family, or your parents dont like him, its time to consider kicking him to the curb.
Make a list of at least 10 things you can offer (e.g you have a car, you are very loving etc) and 10 musts for your ideal man (e.g he must have a good salary, he must respectful). Stick to this list when you are feeling low or doubtful.
Love is an Action. Your number one turn on with a man should be the way he treats you. Often men will tell a woman they love them when they don't, and they have no remorse about it - they do this to get what they want, whether it be sex, money, a place to live, or attention. Men who abuse, cheat, lie and manipulate you do NOT love you. There is an adundance of men who will use women for their own convenience.
You do not have to be conventionally attractive in order to be attractive and confident. There are many famous celebs (ie lady gaga) who are attractive due to their sheer confidence and uniqueness. Be yourself and never try to be like one of the guys, or change in order to get a guy to like you. There are guys out there who will find your curves, your underbite etc very hot. The only person who thinks you're ugly is you. Never say negative things about yourself.
Practice dating multiple men at once instead of focusing on one single man. Even if you are less interested in the other guys, they are good to use as filler dates, keeping yourself busy and basically preventing you from putting all your eggs in one basket. It is not wrong to serial date - view dating as a fun, non committal activity. If it feels unnatural, start with only two men at a time. Do not tell men you are dating other men, just tell them you are busy and are enjoying your freedom, if they ask.
OLD is a safe and easy way to get multiple dates at once very quickly. Always meet in a public place and do not give him your private info. Let others know where you are going before the date.
Do not accept "coffee" and "walk" dates, as this is a sign the guy is broke and/or a player who is trying to get sex with as little effort as possible. Tell a man you would like a more formal date. If this puts him off, then he was just looking for easy sex. Let the trash take itself out.
Do not give a guy a blowjob. Only do this once he has shown he is worthy of a serious committed relationship. You must not get emotionally attached to men until he has proven he is serious about you, has passed the "prince charming test" and has been patient while you have withheld sex. Then you can pour all your love and affection on him and show him how much you appreciate him.
Protect your uterus. Always always use double protection (condom+birth control). Plan B (the morning after pill) only works 1 in 8 times - NEVER rely on it. Never rely on the pull out method. Becoming pregnant is so much easier than you think. If you miss a BC pill, dont have sex for the whole month.
Feel free to ask me for elaboration on any of these and ill open up the book and give you her full explanation.
“Men do not get emotionally involved” is hilarious. Whoever wrote that must not have dealt with many males. They are extremely emotional, and can become obsessed very easily. Just because the emotions they operate through are not “love” doesn’t make them less emotional…