There’s no such thing as the romantic notion of the one. The key is how is he making your life better, elevating it, creating delight and value. Or is he making you go down a rabbit hole making you wonder “if he is the one”. Former can stay, latter is trash.
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Jul 20
Unfortunately, even if you vet early on for red flags, some things only reveal themselves over time. It can never truly be 100% certainty that someone is your one.
There's no such thing as the one. Either he's high value and you have cold, hard facts of how relationship profits you, or you do not. And perks of relationship are not "he makes me happi UwU 🥺". Romance, love and warm fuzzy feelings are for pickmes.
Magic isn't real, therefore there's no such thing as "the one", and theres no special magical feeling when you've met someone you can spend the rest of your life with. You can only do your best to vet and put yourself first.
Dayyyum reading these comments makes me understand what my sister was talking about all this time.
She’s always big on what men can do to make her life easier. Keep in mind that she’s like the traditional wife who can’t drive, doesn’t have post-secondary, and doesn’t work, but she has all these “wifely” and home maker qualities. Despite this, she some managed to marry a provider. Her biggest thing about men is if they are able to provide for her, pay for daily expenses, and help her with errands. Literally, back when she was dating, she would literally tell me that she was only interested in dating men that could make her life easier by alleviating all her difficulties; she wasn’t interested in helping them deal with their baggage hahaha. The moment that a man started to become lazy or express any type of resentment towards her desires, she would literally find another guy who was willing to do what she’d ask for. Anyways, she ended up finding a guy hat couldn’t say no to her and married him.
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Jul 28
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Your sister sounds smart; just women have the ability to prioritize themselves effortlessly. I wish her priorities had been instilled in me when I was a little girl.
Instead, I was taught to be the perfect little pickme.
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There’s no such thing as the romantic notion of the one. The key is how is he making your life better, elevating it, creating delight and value. Or is he making you go down a rabbit hole making you wonder “if he is the one”. Former can stay, latter is trash.
Unfortunately, even if you vet early on for red flags, some things only reveal themselves over time. It can never truly be 100% certainty that someone is your one.
There's no such thing as the one. Either he's high value and you have cold, hard facts of how relationship profits you, or you do not. And perks of relationship are not "he makes me happi UwU 🥺". Romance, love and warm fuzzy feelings are for pickmes.
Magic isn't real, therefore there's no such thing as "the one", and theres no special magical feeling when you've met someone you can spend the rest of your life with. You can only do your best to vet and put yourself first.
Dayyyum reading these comments makes me understand what my sister was talking about all this time.
She’s always big on what men can do to make her life easier. Keep in mind that she’s like the traditional wife who can’t drive, doesn’t have post-secondary, and doesn’t work, but she has all these “wifely” and home maker qualities. Despite this, she some managed to marry a provider. Her biggest thing about men is if they are able to provide for her, pay for daily expenses, and help her with errands. Literally, back when she was dating, she would literally tell me that she was only interested in dating men that could make her life easier by alleviating all her difficulties; she wasn’t interested in helping them deal with their baggage hahaha. The moment that a man started to become lazy or express any type of resentment towards her desires, she would literally find another guy who was willing to do what she’d ask for. Anyways, she ended up finding a guy hat couldn’t say no to her and married him.