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Hi girls,
After a recent break up I am firmly back on the dating horse. The last guy I was seeing was low vibe and I want to make sure I have fun on Saturday night whilst maintaining high standards.
Handbook tips aside (yes I have re-read) please give me your quick and dirty tips?
What I know so far:
He offered me the choice of a restaurant or an activity date ✅
He booked said date ✅
He's professional and solvent (thank you google)
spend as little time as possible thinking about him when you are not actually with him.
Sit back. Observe & enjoy.
If you enjoy yourself and have fun, stay. If you feel uncomfortable or bored, politely leave and spend the rest of your evening doing something else fun.
Also, he’s done the minimum (which can feel more than it is, when we’ve been with someone LV!)
Hope it's a good date!
let a trusted friend or family member know where you are and ask if they can be your "family emergency" if things go awry and it doesn't feel safe to tell him you're not feeling it and are going to leave (they can call you and tell you they need you to go pick up grandma right away, or whatever).
dress in something that makes you feel good!
remember that he is lucky to be in your presence. :)
have fun and enjoy yourself!
Remember that he's there to impress YOU. Not the other way around.
If you drive, get a uber or taxi or have a friend/relative drop you off an pick you up. Do not let a strange man see your actual license plate.
Do not tell him exactly where you work, or exact job. Be vague. You don't need a stalker turning up at your work. e.g. If you are a nurse at a hospital say you work in administrative support at a DIFFERENT hospital (but maybe nearby).
Do not pay.
Do not go home with him.
Do not appear too impressed. Be a little hard to please. If he makes jokes and you find them funny, laugh a little less than usual.
Do not tell him a thing about past relationships. "We drifted apart"---keep it vague, vague, vague. No details.
Goodluck queen!
You will know if it’s time to leave, trust your instincts. Your future self will feel lighter and more free when going on dates when you demonstrate your ability to act on your instincts.