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So I've always followed FDS primarily as a dating community and was hoping to compare notes with you girls about our dating experiences lately. I took a couple of years off to focus on grad school, and have now been going on dates and have had such a positive experience now that I have done the work and applied the handbook.
I know some time has passed since we were all on reddit- I was wondering how you girls feel about dating these days? It's been a super positive experience for me personally because of all the vetting and then filtering out of toxic men with red flags. It's been a few weeks, but the quality of men's behavior is so drastically different to when I was dating pre-healing/fds. Even years ago when I tried applying the handbook I got burned a lot because I would make exceptions etc. None of that now!
How about you? Any progress lately?
I actually found FDS back in late 2021 right around when my ex and I were separating and then I had to go through the divorce process, sell my house and move back in with my parents, so i haven’t exactly in the best space physically or mentally to date or get into a relationship. I think the best thing about FDS is centering yourself in your life. I wasted my time from ages 17-25 with men and thought that my life wouldn’t be fulfilled if I wasn’t with someone. I’ve been able to spend the last year and a half-ish on myself and it has been amazing. I don’t think I’ll date again until I at least have my own place, and even then I think I won’t actually seek it out.