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This is something that I have seen in in many online communities, as well as in real life. However, as a bi woman myself, the fact that gay women are treated "better" than gay men is a load of BS. Even in the LGBTQ+ community, there is still misogyny. A lot of the "arguments" made to think men in the community are worse off than women don't really see what we go through on a daily basis.
Like, there was someone online talking about the lack of men gay couples in TV vs woman gay couples. However, a lot of the women couples are sexualized heavily by men, as the only reason why these couples are popular is because of corn sickness scrotes wanting two women have sex. This also correlates to real life. Me and many other women who are bi have a fear of telling future partners who are men because of the awful stereotypes a lot of people believe: we love threesomes, we love having open relationships, we are "freaky", etc. Another gross stereotype is that "most if not ALL women are bi and want to have sex with women as much as men" (this is sooo not from some gross corn stereotype *eye roll*) It makes me sick and makes me second guess telling other people, especially men. I would rather have the less quantity of representation than having a ton of it just to be only seen as a tool for dick beating creeps.
The number one reason why it seems wlw seem to be treated "better" than mlm is because of the fact that we are sexualized to no end. Just look online and all around you. There are men who live for two women (or more) one man corn, lesbian corn, creeps writing gross comments online about wlw couples, etc. They only "support" us when we are a tool for their perverted desires.
Gay men aren’t being attacked if they don’t want to date trans identified women in the way lesbians are if they don’t want to date trans identified men. That says it all.
Gay men can absolutely be misogynistic. I remember a gay guy at work started a "burn book" of all the female employees. He was ruthless. And of course, there are plenty of gay men who think they can make nasty comments on women's makeup, hair and clothes, because they believe being gay makes them an expert on such things. Not all gay men, of course. I've known some really wonderful ones. I'm just against the "bitchy queen" act- whether it's coming from a male or a female.
I haaaate that sentiment so much as a straight women, then I realized its because people are ignoring the interehent misogyny. Men have institutionalized their warped views of sexuality to the point where even some of their own kind believes it. I rember seeing a comment on Reddit that said like, "Remeber: If you're too ugly to date, just remember that someone somewhere out there has a fetish for your body type." At first I agreed, but then I was like wtf. That comment only had about 25 upvotes and buried in the replies, but it still stuck with me over how men just simply do not get what it's like to be fetishized.
Tell me how exactly gay men are being treated as worse off when lesbians and bi women are way more likely to get fired for our orientation, gatekept out of "family friendly" neighborhoods if we want to buy a house as a single woman or while in a same sex relationship with another woman, being treated as sexual predators, telling us that we haven't met the right man to turn us 100% straight, actually getting raped by men in hopes we stop finding women attractive, etc? Like obviously gay men go through homophobia, but gay men have more backings in finances and political/social power on the basis of their (male) sex!
oh yes a scrote asked me how i "used" my bisexuality. i went the dumb fox route.
Yes, I am also bisexual and the amount of times I’ve had guys ask me for a three way is disrespectful, especially when my dating profile was set to looking for a serious relationship 🙄. That’s why I took it off . We are overly sexualized, but when we in a relationship with another woman and don’t want to perform for them, it’s no more of that they want to shame us into taking dick and go off on their homophobic, misogynistic tirade.