The reason why men tell women to smile.

I’m suspecting a good portion (or maybe even the majority) are pornsick sexual sadists.

Like men usually say it when a woman is visibly upset, exhausted or shortly after he did something hurtful.

If a man see’s a little girl crying he’ll often say something along the lines of “turn that frown upside down” “Don’t cry smile” or sometimes they’ll try to force an involuntary smile by tickling her and ignore her when she says to stop.

Like when I’m upset the very last thing I want to do is smile. It feels so unnatural and forced, even humiliating at times. Why should I expend my emotional energy into forcing a smile when I’d rather do self soothing behaviors instead? Why do men feel entitled to a woman looking happy all the time?

I noticed a lot of men also do it to retail workers and waitresses, even during the pandemic when a mask was required. Like these men expect these women to take their masks off and smile at them, especially if the women has visible physical fatigue from working long hours or was at risk of being scolded by her boss.

Ugh! why do men care about a woman’s facial expression if he can’t even see it?

It’s because it isn't about a woman appearance it’s more like these men want to dominate a woman. These lvm want to control everything a woman does. Even the expression on her hidden face.

I used to be told it was because they were “just trying to help me feel better" or “because  they don’t know any better” but these excuses don't make any sense. I don’t think that’s the case because men almost never do it to other males. Its always directed towards women.

I also never had a woman tell me to smile, unless we were both happy and taking a group photo. (Appropriate context)

Austisic/socially awkward males sometimes try to use it as an excuse but an Autistic woman never made unsolicited comments about me smiling. Also it's usually Neurotypical males that do it so the “poor social skills” excuse doesn’t make sense.. I also had multiple young males make unsolicited comments about me  “needing to smile more” so the “boomer upbringing” isn’t an excuse whatsoever.

I remember when I was a child I was visibly angry because a scroute was yelling at me and insulting me. I wasn’t speaking, I wasn’t fighting back I was simply disassociating to avoid conflict and self soothe. He screamed “Get that nasty angry look off of your f*%#ing face! Smile you f#%ing b$@%!”

When women are distressed, exhausted or experiencing stressful stimuli disassociating is a common coping method. Sadist males are fully aware of this. They repeat these torture tactics from porn and horror movies. (Theres literally a movie called "smile")

They want to snap the women back to reality so she can’t disassociate. They want the women to get emotionally exhausted more quickly, they get satisfaction from controlling a woman.

These sadists get satisfaction from making women redirect their attention and emotional energy back to him.

It doesn’t matter what she’s going through or what a man is doing to her a predator demands that their target submit. It’s not about being “pleasant”, “looking feminine” or even to “boost his ego” its about control.

It doesn’t matter if he just abused a girl or is currently doing it in present time. Being visibly angry, distressed, exhausted or sad is seen as a form of rebellion.  In his mind a woman is not allowed to feel or think, instead its to give into demands.

A man knows if a woman is allowed to have control of her own thoughts, ignore a man or let her emotions naturally flow then, she’s more likely to resist his demands and resent him. She’s more likely to see him for who he actually is, a monster.