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While racism and misogyny are not the same, they do have some oppressive parallels and I had a thought.
Slavery ended bc all black people agreed it was wrong and some white people (some white people with authority) agreed.
I think a big part of the problem women face is some women won't admit how misogyny is oppressive. I know they're like that bc they're being oppressed but still. This is so upsetting.
Misogyny is even on this website with how some members treat each other. There is a group of bitch femcels who stalk my page and complain about me nonstop, they even stuck a "troll" tag on my account. Nasty bitches. They like to say shitty things to me but the moment I call them a bitch they're all hurt. Now I know why there's so much hate for this website. Disgusting pathetic people on here who can't get a guy to take them out to dinner, so they attack the women who do get treated the way they wished.
When I look back, I think what happens is media is so misogynistic and sexualized that you grow up climatized to it. Like if all you ever know is 100 degree weather then that’s ‘normal’. I mean music and movies are 100 percent about men ‘getting women’ for sex, how to please men sexually, and how to be sexually desirable to men. Cosmo for example, realistically is for 15 year olds and it’s all about finding creative (#%!*) ways to give BJs to men. when you listen to music these days from every top artist its all about making men want to have sex with you, bragging about men wanting to have sex with you, and men bragging about having sex with a bunch of women and not caring about them. Why is our music such trash? Seriously why do we listen to this garbage Written by a bunch of actual drug addicts In Hollywood. Half the time they talk about popping pills and having sex with random people. Whatever is out there in music and TV is what kids and teens think is normal. These are the values that kids take on, celebrities are the people kids emulate. We need to start holding musicians accountable. It’s wierd that we rightly would speak out about racism on TV and in songs, but not sexism. Oh also porn. Porn has to go. It’s got to be illegal. Why should we deal with being sexually harassed and assaulted everywhere we go because politicians want to masturbate to porn? Why is overt racism allowed in porn? We rightly take issue with sexism and racism on sitcoms but porn can be blatantly and unapologetically racist, and present people like they are literal zoo creatures. WTH! In my opinion the only reason porn exists is because every politician, and like 98% of the population watches porn and won’t give it up, at women's expense. I’m so pissed. Anyway hear you lady 100 percent, having a nice body or being attractive means dealing with perverted disgusting behaviour because men don’t get shamed and scorned for their atrocious depraved behaviour. as Taykor Swift would say “like ever”!
In my experience, it's useless to try to rationalize with pickmes and coolgirls with words. It's a waste of time and energy, and we have better things to do than engaging with misogynists, regardless of their gender or their naïveté. Respecting women and not tolerating misogyny is non-negotiable for me. If another woman is tolerating it, I'll say something depending on the context, but otherwise, she's digging her own grave and she knows it.
Preaching by example is the most efficient way to change their minds, in my opinion. If you don't allow misogyny in your life, if you have a Queen mindset, I can guarantee other women will notice and they'll be like "How do you do it?".
When I hear things like "bUt nOt aLL mEn !1!!" from another woman, I might say "That's nice for you, but I don't have the luxury of thinking like that" if I think planting that seed might be fruitful. When they're like "What do you mean?", I reply "Because it could be any man". And if they start arguing, I'm out. Go do your mental gymnastics somewhere else.
misoginy wont end bc women allow it, they tell you're exagerating, bc not all men! (oh cry me a river!) -_-
It's bc it wins them approval by the LVM they imagine will like them...if they just act *cool* enough. Here's the reality tho: a guy will not "fall in love with you" bc you show how you'll go to ends of the fucking Earth for them, or sacrifice your entire being for them, etc. They may use you for entertainment, have unfulfilling (for you) sex with you for a while. Hell, they might even take you to a movie or introduce you to their friends & family (probably as their "friend" - but maybe not) ! But- they will *never* respect you, and they will always know they can more or less treat you however they want and that you'll do nothing abt it, you'll never leave, etc. Because that's what you've taught them. I'd much rather be "the bitch" who has respect - from my partner as well as my own - intact.
I know what you mean, our society is patriarchal af but women still make fun of feminists as a delusional bunch, we're not going out of it at this rate, it's frustrating because they just pull you down with them with thier behaviors, as if you don't have a say in what they do, even though you're hurting from it.