Over 8 years together and still no ring, run sis!

So she's basically been playing nurse, maid, mommy, and surrogate wife to him for nearly a decade without him having to actually wife her. What a scam.

Let's assume he proposes to her now and they actually get married. Do you really want to be married to a clown like that? What would actually change?

Legally they would be tied together and after divorce (let's face it, that's how this would end up) she might not even get money. What's the point? If you're a HVW, do you actually need and benefit from being married?

I've been married twice (both Z and NVM) and I didn't financially benefited from divorcing them. Hell, even while being married I didn't benefit from being married. It was a shit show both times.

I really don't see why it always has to be the end goal to get married.

If you're a HVW why get married? I mean, even if it's a HVM... A lot of marriages end in divorce.

Some will say, you're a bang maid, nanny etc to your boyfriend. But once you get married, you're what? You're still the bang maid, nanny etc. With the difference that you're getting paid, (if you're lucky) for it?

I don't get it.

I still don't see how (let's leave tax reasons aside) a woman benefits from being married.

If you marry rich, and your husband is generous, then yeah, I suppose that's cool.. But most women don't marry rich and generous.

He loves how desperately she wants something he's withholding. Now he can make her jump through hoops and move the goalpost. It makes him feel powerful which shows he's clearly a nobody in life. How sad that a woman is letting some guy who likely works at Target decide her life. How degrading and disgusting. This isn't cute and it isn't funny.

I genuinely don't see the appeal... like what does she get in return? I also saw comments like "women if you want to demonstrate empowerment, you can also propose" 😬😬😬 everything is just catered to them.

I found the original post, this turd posted it under r/funny. It just shows the depths of his apathy and disrespect that he turns his girlfriend’s love and pain into an online joke for other random men to also laugh at and mock her. Obviously, she should dump him asap, take a year or two to build self-esteem and enjoy life without being a self-sacrificing mommy bangmaid, and then find a HVM who actually wants to marry her within 1-2 years.

My friend is in this situation. She's been living with a guy for 6 years. He won't propose. But he'll use her to pay half his mortgage, be the housekeeper, and his sex slave. She sees these red flags, but is also in denial at the same time.

My mother and grandmother warned me to not lock down with any man who's not married me, never wait more than 6 months for a guy, date multiple men and sleep with none of them. They were right. Society was wrong. Look at how awful things have become. You're either a perma-girlfriend baby mama or a throwaway f*ck toy. What a deal!

It's just so sad. My brother has a gf that's been with him for the past ten years. I just saw them recently together and as I watch them walking in front of me, I look behind her head sadly and realize, as good as she is, as educated and ambitious and smart as she is, as beautiful and wonderful as she is... she will never change his mind when it comes to marriage. He's finally made up his mind about her but won't tell her this.

I realize that she will not be my sister in law after all. And it's sad, really.

Lol just saw that a few hours ago and wanted to come here.

This is so pathetic honestly. Shit or get off the pot. Except he won't do that -- why buy the cow and all that. She should cut her losses because even if she guilt trips him into proposing or marrying it won't be a happy marriage. You can't force someone to commit to you, to love you, to value you.

5 years is the maximum. Even 5 years is a stretch.

A couple of years ago, I was talking to a new friend at that time. She told me she's been with her boyfriend for 10 years and I was absolutely floored. A decade with someone when you're totally the type who would have said yes if asked, if you were honest with yourself? She's amazing and he sounds like a bit of a loser even if I haven't heard anything truly concerning. I think women in these situations are compromising something they actually want, bar those who perhaps have more money than their partners.

That’s sad and pathetic to be honest. Why put effort into something like that? Obviously she wants to get married and this guy just uses her. I feel like she’s doing this as a “joke” to seem cool about it but it comes off so desperate. she should just leave

Well that's embarrassing.

I feel sorry for the women that they can’t see it for what it is and leave. The guy doesn’t want to marry them. Even if they do cave eventually to shut her up, I bet they won’t be good husbands. These dudes have their mommy bangmaid, why would they wife her up if they know she’ll stick around doing wife things for him, no matter what?

Waiting for Godot.