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I work in the education industry. I teach 1-to-1 lessons to a variety of students. I’ve taught hundreds of people during my lifetime so I have lots of experience talking to all folks under my belt.
One thing that I’ve noticed recently is that the amount of male clients I have is mostly incapable of having any meaningful conversation of any sort. They don’t listen to me, they interrupt me, and always try to “one-up” me with their knowledge or mansplain something to me.
With women, on the other hand, I can have smooth and natural conversations with ease. They listen, ask me questions, and genuinely care.
It’s like men’s brain is not completely developed in the social/communication department. Most of them lack social skills and empathy. Yet these kinds of people run our worlds, make decisions for us and make more money than we do for the same amount of work. It drives me crazy sometimes realizing in how fucked up and patriarchal society we live in. End rant.
I thought I was the problem, a dude remains silent and he claims he doesn’t know what to say but has plenty to say about sex. It’s like that’s all they are interested in. I know now why men can’t hold a meaningful conversation, it’s because from the beginning they are only focusing on what you can offer.
They seem to be able to switch it on and off when they want to. In my opinion, it's a matter of effort, and they don't deem most women "worthy" of their effort. Plus, most of them are wired to dominate women in conversation instead of it being a mutual effort.
Story time: A neighbour in my building never shuts up when he sees me (except he only talks about himself and is a horrible conversationalist), but when he sees the 80 year olds in my building, he grunts one word answers. They both have dogs, and even when they're standing outside, he won't engage the older people the same way he engages me. The older folks were stunned when I told them this younger guy never shuts up when he sees me. It's a choice
IME, men HATE when i'm not the one driving a lively conversation. in at least two instances i can think of, both scrotes stated how "awkward" and how much of a "turn off" it was when i wasn't saying anything while driving in the car with them. 🙄
like, here's a crazy idea: why don't you put forth a little emotional labor and ask some questions. maybe talk about something besides video games and ex-girlfriends (the triangulation is f**king ridiculous at this point, every single dude does it)...can you think of no other topics?
one scrote's idea of conversation was to show me this IG "artist's" account, which was childlike drawings of girls masturbating and having sex. he was 35 years old.
it's a matter of effort and of control, and i'm tired of entertaining these rejects for a negative ROI.
"It's like men's brains are not completely developed in the social/communication department".
Nah, it's more like women work to develop those skills, and men could easily do the same, but they choose to not develop those skills. I refuse to blame biology on men's behalf. A man's bad behavior is that man's choice.
Otherwise, I agree entirely.
It's true. Every human interaction boils down to a competition for them which they must win. Are they winning or losing, are they getting something from you (winning) or giving to you (losing, according to them)? It's so fucked up. Once I noticed that this is what the majority of them are all like, I started to give way fewer fucks, and was both more empowered and saddened.
When I ask my colleague to explain something I don't understand, why does he need to do it so loudly that everyone turns to us, and he almost makes it as a scene to show off his knowledge
They act like men don't need deep conversations in their friendships and women's friendships are frivolous and needlessly complicated and then cry about how they don't know how to talk to women or wonder why women aren't smitten by their awkward silences.
This is a consequence of teaching boys the world should accommodate them and revolves around their comfort while teaching girls they exist to make others (men, mainly) more comfortable. Girls are incredibly well socialized, often to a genius point, and boys are hopelessly behind.