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TW for violence and abuse. Protect yourself and only read if you have a good day and won't feel triggered.
The BDSM community is a cult, it's big and has impacted our culture and harmed millions of women. I'm going to walk you through the double speak and make it easier to understand the gaslighting.
What is double speak? "Doublespeak is language that deliberately obscures, disguises, distorts, or reverses the meaning of words. Doublespeak may take the form of euphemisms (e.g., "downsizing" for layoffs and "servicing the target" for bombing ), [1] in which case it is primarily meant to make the truth sound more palatable."
So here is the translation for the BDSM gaslighting Doublespeak dictionary:
Dominant - A controlling and possibly neurotic person who enjoys having power over someone.
Submissive - Most of the time an emphatic people pleaser who hasn't learned to set boundaries and that self sacrifices to feel good about themselves.
A sadist - Sadists possess an intrinsic motivation to inflict suffering on innocent others. Enjoys hurting others.
Masochist - An addicted self harmer.
DDLG - Playing a pedophile.
Impact play - Hurting someone with physical violence.
Degradation play - Hurting someone with emotional violence.
Breath play - Strangulation. The one biggest single instigator that someone might kill you.
Subspace - A harmful dissociative state that, at it's worst, can give you PTSD symptoms afterwards.
Aftercare - Love bombing after abuse.
Daddy - Pedophile.
Little - Probably have harmful mental age regression due to trauma.
Bondage - Can do severe and permanent nerve damage and stems from torturing slaves.
Domspace - A power high from inflicting violence.
Poly - Has attachment issues and seek intimacy without truly finding it.
Demisexual - A healthy normal attraction that doesn't need a label.
Fetishist - Attracted to objects and body parts. Not capable of being turned on by a true human connect with a complex person.
Safe word - A way to gaslight women into believing they weren't raped because they went into freeze and couldn't say the safe word. Healthy sex doesn't need a safe word.
If it looks like abuse, it's abuse. Don't be fooled by the " it's not really BDSM if it's abuse agenda" or " it might look like abuse from the outside but it's really not if you know what you are doing" bullshit talk.
There's more but I'll stop there. BDSM doublespeak is ruining sex and relationships. See it for what it is. Normalizing deviance and abuse of mostly women and girls.
Stay safe ♥️
Also “subdrop”=normal reaction to being treated like a subhuman punching bag?
Brilliant 👏 I completely agree that the terminology distorts abuse into something that is seemingly acceptable. It is impossible to consent to abuse. Just because you went along with BDSM or thought it was something you wanted at the time, does not mean that you deserved it or that it was okay for your partner to inflict pain or degradation. Resulting trauma and PTSD are real, but it is possible to heal and cultivate love and compassion toward yourself 🖤
This. If your partner is not a rapist (who enjoys it) or psychopath (who may genuinely not notice or/and not care) you don't need a safe word because they will be aware and stop the moment you look like you don't enjoy what they are doing.
What kind of person keeps having sex with someone who does not look like they are having fun because "she didn't say the safe word" or even just keeps going right until they explicitely say something and only stops then? Who enjoys that? Correct: rapists.
All this BDSM babble about "consent" and "safe words" reminds me of a video of a man almost drowning his girlfriend in the name of "kink", and she said it was totally safe because her stop signal would have been squeezing his hand. Jesus Christ, girl, if you're having a blackout from oxygen deprivation, you're not going to be able to squeeze anyone's hand! Damn. These sadistic men are basically getting off on almost killing their partners and then act like this is a normal thing to do in a relationship because it's "about trust". No sorry I'm never going to trust a man with my literal life for a sexual high. Never.
I love how clearly you phrase things to cut through the propaganda