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I wanted to share my personal theory on why men disrespect and treat women badly, and where the misogyny is coming from. I'm not sure if I'm correct, that's just a pattern I noticed.
I have noticed that we can distinguish cultural and social differences between women and men. Female and male friendships look different, our social spaces look different. There's man's world and woman's world, and both of those worlds have different set of rules women and men live by.
So my theory is that one of the reasons of misogyny is that woman's world is nicer than men's world and men look down on us because of it. When I look at how men behave in their groups, or when I watch movies meant mostly for a male audience, I notice that there's lots of pressure on acting tough and strong in it. I think it comes from history of wars which is part of "men's world".
In the past, men had to go to war whether they liked it or not, and men were the main providers. They, of course, created such system and rules themselves, but they willingly put lots of pressure on themselves. A pressure to be powerful and a winner at all times.
Meanwhile, in the "woman's world" there is not such big pressure on it. Women are more free to be vulnerable, female friendships do not have such aggressive banter, I think we all know what I mean. Women are not burdened by expectations of toxic masculinity and men are jealous of it.
Secretly they just want to be "weak" and sensitive. They want to have the pretty privelege, they want to be taken care of and coddled, they want to be free from this hard and unwelcoming man's world. They sorta think woman's world is a la la land without any expectations and toxicity because they have no insight into it. So they think they're superior to women because they have it "harder" and we have it "easier". They're jealous of us, simple as that.
While men went in to wars, women experienced getting kidnapped, raped, enslaved and having their kids taken away. Even then they survived, gave birth to and raised kids.
I'd say the pressure of being tough was on women. Has always been, because they are expected to function in society as if everything is fine.
But men are so selfish and blind. If situations were reversed 🍿🍿🍿
Men prove this theory every day by making mens public restrooms way grosser than women’s public restrooms.
I used to work somewhere where part of my job was cleaning up bathrooms. I lost count of how many times men coated the toilets and floors with pee.
The women’s bathrooms were always‘s way cleaner.
Also if anyone had to choose between staying in a mens or women’s prison they would choose the women’s every time. Even a misogynist that hates women would choose the woman’s prison over the mens.
This and womb envy is what fuels cureent social movements today.
I do agree with you. Enjoyed this post - thank you.
I remember dating a guy and he said he wished he were a woman because life would be so much easier. I didn’t quite understand at the time why I felt uncomfortable with how he spoke about it but it makes sense to me now… he was just jealous of women. Now I realize the reason why I felt so uncomfortable was because of how selfish he sounded.
So accurate.