Title says it all. Imagine being a vulnerable adolescent nearing adulthood, but still so young. The injustice of this is so sharp and heartbreaking. The onus of protecting herself was put on her, and she did her best by letting her manager know this 🤢 made her uncomfortable.
This is what I hate about libfem: we are told to be domestic goddesses, sexual acrobats, working at least 40+ hours a week, accepting of male boorishness, willing to get drafted into military combat, and performing all the emotional labor.
But even libfems get unfairly smeared by conservative platforms and the man0sphere: (example of a typical conversation from 2011 on)
Libfems: "could you please give us a little smidgen of respect? Or say Elliot Rodger was misogynistic when he shot up a bunch of people and blamed women? Wow look at all the mad incels because we dye our hair blue! Teehee male tears and 50/50 empowerment. Choices I make about my own body offend men, which makes me sad but sort of powerful"
The rest of the internet: "No, you inherently are defective and will hit the wall by 25. HAHA. Try meeting the standards of men in military combat, in boot camp, or enter a debate with the smartest man in the world, then MAYBE I could give your inferior ass some respect. Equal rights, equal lefts for a mouthy girl ;)"
So... women know men don't listen to us. So, all the fathers, brothers, uncles, and cousins out there claiming to love women: where ARE you? If feminism forced women to assume every possible human responsibility, the least you can do is influence public policy, advocate for us, and yanno, provide and protect. I'm tired of your silence.
Men don't have to agree with us on everything. But, as a collective it is their responsibility to take ownership of protections they slack on (e.g. the shooting of the elementary school and the cops doing nothing for an hour). Another girl in the US was stabbed because she turned down someone who asked her to prom.
Men who abuse us, beat us, maim us, and kill us in response to romantic rejection are committing domestic terrorism. I said it. So men, if you are a "good guy" and want to be HV, DO SOMETHING. Don't laugh at your neckbeard friend's jokes about killing women. Don't make excuses for Johnny Depp's texts about murdering Amber Heard and desecrating her body. Don't dismiss women's concerns and encourage them to be safe. Walk women to their cars. Stay present in a room an extra few minutes if you suspect a man is creeping on a woman. Use the power of silence.
I know the US is a "free country," but if men can have enough access to kill us in the workplace, I don't imagine the women there feel free. This affects all of us across the globe. I feel so hopeless I would almost prefer having to go anywhere with a male escort. You guys win. There is no such thing as societal oppression against men. But now women are openly discriminates against then gaslit about it.
If you agree with me, what can we do about this issue? Parents/siblings/cousins/etc: Listen to girls/women in your family when they say they feel creeped out by someone. Don't give the benefit of the doubt to a man because he seems "safe"/nerdy/obese/socially awkward/etc. Remember kids are exposed to endless depravity on the internet unless parents intervene. Remember your daughters are pressured to "be polite" and "not hurt feelings" in response to male depravity. Stop training protective instincts out of your daughters as soon as they get their period or turn 16. I'm not blaming this victim's parents, as there was only so much they can do. But, if everyone who cares about girls and wome collectively followed these guidelines I bet we would start making some changes protecting girls and women.
That is so sad. I'm thankful my last job actually cut out a creep that made women at my work uncomfortable. I never felt the need to report him because I thought he was just socially awkward and thought the creep vibes were low key or just in my head. Later found out that he was saying weird things to other female co-workers, but the worst offense was when he ran into a coworker out in public and then followed her for at least an hour.
Surprised, I am not
Every woman in every place of work needs to be perfectly aware that managers and HR are not there to help the employees or protect their interests. They are there to protect the interests of their employer. Nothing else. In fact the louder they call "We are a FaMiLy!1" the more toxic it usually is.
If throwing you under the bus, endangering or terminating you to protect the person who harrassed you is in the best interest of the business, they absolutely will. Do not go to them for help. Go to a lawyer. Go to the police. Go to your union. Do that before you even think about speaking to HR or a manager. They are not your friend here.
My boss (who claims to be a "feminist", "deeply moral person and Christian", "you can come to me with anything" kind of guy) knowingly hired a man who was known to be a sex offender (convicted!) who shouldn't be let near female employees in the whole industry because he really wanted the business contacts that guy could provide him with. When I called him out, he told me that he thought the claims were surely exaggerated (he was such a nice guy when they spoke!) and to just not leave the younger female employees alone with him because he - his words - didn't want to deal with the whole mess if some misunderstanding happens.
The same boss abandoned a female intern in a tea house in a darkish part of a Near Eastern capital and took off alone, telling her to just walk back to the hotel, take a bus or take a cab because he had an appointment now and she couldn't come with him. She didn't speak the local language and had never been there before.
The sooner we accept that they don't care about our safety and draw consequences, the better.
This is the LoGiCaL gender, everyone
The article was blocked on my end all post this one here: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.buzzfeednews.com/amphtml/adeonibada/walgreens-employee-killed-coworker-rejected Can't believe he thought he'd get away with it!
Please take a moment of silence for Riley. A vibrant life gone too soon. RIP 😢