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I am recently 30, and that number made me feel a lot of pressure about my career. I tried to talk myself out of that fallacy, and realized the root of it is I still struggle financially some months. I had a promotion at my previous job, and the manager above me acted threatened that the district manager found me more capable and put me on the track to essentially take her job. On top of that he was frequently yelling at her because she didn't listen to him and made up her own policies. We all suspected her and saw her doing shady things like stealing money - but I wasn't able to get proof. Then a coworker started sexually harassing me - I reached out and filed so many reports and made so many phone calls but another woman was friends with my boss and pulled a lot of strings to cover things up, and my company turned a blind eye to it. Because of these 2 women, I had to leave my financial security that came with that position. It's so upsetting to see other women drag each other down and the hoops and loops my manager had gone through to hold me back so I wasn't learning for her position.
Anyways I always had a small business on the side and always ran it more or less depending on my work or schedule. So I ramped that back up, spent time with family as a family member is terminally ill, and moved my business into a dedicated storage space. Basically it's an ebay store.
The plan for now is to really grow the business up and have everything listed and organized so that when I get hired again, I can ship orders when I'm off.
I'm putting in the work, and I'm seeing the results. Financially, it strained me to travel to see my ill relative, but I'm recovering. Part of the business succeeding was to create social media, post ads, etc.
Other women began to notice the size and success of my shop, and instead of continuing to scroll past or shop elsewhere- they have started to crawl out of the woodwork to drag me down. I don't even know these people and I haven't made any sales to them. They're simply bothered someone else is in their own lane, minding their literal business, and it upsets them so much they started putting time and effort into bullying and sabotaging me. Recently someone ordered from me and purposely destroyed the item and lied to get a refund. She posted about it, lied telling everyone I'm awful and unprofessional, it's like something out of a Hollywood mean middle schools movie. Except these are grown women, around my age or older.
It's just so upsetting - WHY are they like this? What is wrong with them? I have plenty of other customers who are happy and leave positive feedback. It's one thing to not like someone but it's another thing to waste your time, energy, and money to play the mind games and go out of your way to bring someone down. All I do is not respond, report, and block them. The post was taken down, but she rallied so many more bullies up in the meanwhile.
I'm quite honestly so sick and tired of these other women constantly going out of their way to try to stop my success. I don't know if it's a form of pickmeism or what but the pattern is my manger and her friend were both forever girlfriends and massive pickmes who seemed bothered I didn't understand or know what to say when they'd complain to me their boyfriends of 20 years wouldnt marry them or text them back. They were especially jealous and mean to me if they'd see the guys that worked near us bring me coffee or treats. The women online who seem to be causing the most problems seem like women who are married with younger kids, but the father is doesn't act like one or help with the kids.
Something about being a 30 year old female business owner In her own lane never married no kids threatens people. How do I handle it? Just keep ignoring, reporting, blocking? I'm did start applying to other jobs but will keep ramping up my business until I can get hired somewhere. My heart really wants to teach, but I still haven't gotten my certificate. I honestly need a little more income rolling in before I can devote the proper time and energy to studying for it. I'm getting there, but honestly get so angry women have to treat other women so horribly and degrade each other.
They're jealous
You are literally unbothered moisturized in your lane ect and it's threatening to people who wish for the same. Cut haters off if you can.
Adding that my store has policies that I follow. Other women sellers often have the attitude of the customer is always right so they bend to their every whim. I don't. I hold myself and my customers to the policies in place. Some customers get upset that they don't get a return extension or can't cancel a purchase after they already paid for it. I don't make the rules, but I have to follow them and hold the customers to them. Some men around my age run their businesses the same way, and they're of course seen as successful business minded men and assertive, but I'm seen as a *b word by the bullies.
Yikes…
What I gather is that, a lot of women are buying your stuff and sabotaging it and posting negative reviews on your store front and it’s hurting your business? Double yikes…I knew someone who’s told me about these people. It’s highly likely that they’re doing it to other store fronts and a quick history search should suffice. On Etsy I know that you can refuse sales and refund their money. In this case, the only thing I think you could do is just reach out and offer them a refund (even if you know that they’re messing with you). It’s just to show your future audience and buyers that you have integrity and stand behind your product. However, the next time they buy your stuff decline or give them an automatic refund. Those peo0e are never your customers.
Yeh it's jealousy but you need to report it. Is this Etsy or something? Report them.