Turn the tables around by letting men experience what women do

Which one?? There are so many women at work podcasts

By Harvard Business Review!

For real. This article is attempting to get narcissists to empathize, which will never, ever happen.

The last thing we should do is expect men to rescue us. We need to take our own power back. The article straight up admits that women are often paid less because they are less likely than men to ask for higher pay or raises. This is a talking point that many feminists get angry about, but it's a fact. We NEED to advocate for ourselves, because no one else will.

And there are loads of toxic females out there who are very successful because they use the same strategies as males. Yes, they get called a "b!tch" instead of getting props like men do. Yes, they get called "aggressive" and people don't like them as much. And no, it isn't right. But as someone who has been a pushover my entire life, I have finally learned to stick up for myself and it WORKS. I go to work to make money. I'll be my soft, sensitive, wonderful self in my personal life.

That's true, it's pretty much the deal with everything in the world.

Even in personal relationships when one seems to be putting efforts, the other starts slacking off.

I felt the article was interesting from a leadership perspective. Where leaders can use those questions if possible to help improve team performances.

who is this Tomas Chamorro Premuzic 🤔 i’m suspicious lol

yep, women do the bulk of the emotional labor, we think about the big picture and the long term, even if we don’t plan on giving birth to children, and we understand (most of the time) how to not get maimed by some mentally-ill testosteroned manbaby on a rampage by laying low, keeping our heads down and doing what needs to be done, no matter what.

i definitely have been pressured by male supervisors/mentors to ”be more aggressive,” “underwhelm them to keep them hungry for more” (that was a weird one) and to stop multitasking (that was in a retail job where i would be literally standing on the floor for hours with nothing to do, of course i’m going to be planning the rest of my life out).

other gems from the workplace include “i’ll market for you but you have to do all of the work”, “i’m afraid i’m going to hurt your feelings” (wtf?) and “you don’t have the aptitude” at a place where i was completely entry-level in the field and had only been there for 5 months…sir, you’re the one training me.

so hashtag real talk: how do we put more obstacles in the way of male leaders??

Personally? I prioritize women in every area of my life and invest in them, and on a larger level, organizations and companies that do the same.

I don't invest in men - or places that allow men to fail up.

It's useless trying to fix toxic systems from the inside. I go where women are already appreciated and rewarded and partner up with other kickass women (and male allies who respect us).

I knew my current company was a good fit because not only did it promote women to the highest levels, but the guys on my new team obviously respected our female boss and didn't blink taking orders from her.

Men will continue to fail up until society changes. I can't control that. What I can control is putting my energy into the people and places that are already handling things the right way and removing my energy from the idiots and the cesspits.