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I’ve always adopted a very emotionally independent mindset, and I’ve been introspecting on this—I don’t think it’s served me. I really want to nurture a mentorship with a HVW in the corporate space.
Has anyone else achieved this without warm intros? How were you able to?
To be honest, the times it has worked for me was when I was direct with my request for mentorship, after establishing rapport of course. I have had both a male and female mentor (in different capacities). Both were extremely valuable in their own unique way.
After we initially met and clicked, I expressed how I sincerely appreciated their experience and expertise, and if they had the time and space for me, would they be open to mentoring me.
In saying all of this, I am a shameless networker and will say this in a friendly, banter-like way when I approach potential mentors/connections. This is my personality though, I am able to be serious where needed and also able to laugh at myself. I am still an introvert though, and need to recharge my social batteries after something as emotionally demanding as bravely approaching someone leagues ahead of me professionally.
Point is, adapt to a style that accommodates your personality, be comfortable in your approach. I know it may sound silly that my advice ends up being “be yourself”, but any decent person worthy of being a mentor will respect how much guts it takes to ask for guidance. It also reflects really well on you as it means you’re eager for feedback, advice, and willing to self-reflect. All of that involves humbling oneself, which is a remarkable trait in a person.