I left a job I was in last week after 2yrs. They couldn't offer me the hours I wanted and it wasn't my intended career route anyway. So decided it was time. A lot of staff were leaving and is an only women environment. All the women there were great. A brilliant team. UNTIL....they started to employ new staff. Luckily I'd already handed in my notice by then. The new CEO made a beeline for me, wanting me to be her new best friend. Which at first I thought she would be a great mentor for me as she had accomplished so much in life. On my last days she was making plans with me to meet outside work, exchange numbers, lovebombing me with compliments etc. But I noticed the atmosphere had changed. It started to feel toxic. Another new member of staff had mentioned to a few of us that this CEO had got it in for her. She was right! On my final day this CEO was highly critical of this staff member (who was working damn hard) and trying to get me on board with her negative statements about her. I saw the eye rolls and the dirty looks she was giving her. It was like being at school. I shot her down and didn't play along. It was awful. She then started to put me down, gaslight me, acting controlling and giving me backhanded compliments in front of other staff. I could see the storm brewing and felt bad that this empathic organisation could very well be ruined by a possibility narcissistic new management. I will not be meeting this CEO outside of the organisation either (to which she rang me and booked me in before I left) and have now declined her offer (to which she wasn't happy about). But I walked out of there knowing I have a new job and prospects starting soon. One where it will be great for my career. I feel so relieved that the timing couldn't of been more perfect. Im proud that I seen this so early too and that I put up my boundaries. Just the change in atmosphere in those last few weeks was prominent and heartbreaking. I felt on edge. I will NEVER work or be apart of workplace toxicity again and none of us should have too.
Here's to new beginnings 🙌
The CEO should be reminded that this isn't high school anymore. What is it with women like this??? Jealousy?
Congratulations on the new job! It's amazing how identifying narc behavior in men and choosing to put ourselves first can spill over into improving all other areas of our lives. You will be fantastic in your new role and your last boss sounds truly awful. I can't stand mean girl behavior.
Congratulations 👏 leaving a toxic environment is so important.