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I am moving away from home in a few weeks for the first time at 25, and would appreciate some advice from likeminded women. I attended undergrad (non-traditional) close to home, so always had the crutch of living with/being supported by my parents, but have known for some time that I need to go be my own person and become independent. I love my parents, but I intentionally applied for programs that would take me far from them.
This professional school is a 15 hour drive from my parents and I will be living with 2 other roommates (both female). The program size is pretty small (~50), so I'll be with the same classmates for 4 years. I already have a few female aquaintances in class I've been chatting with, which is great because I won't know anyone where I'm moving.
I'd love just some general advice on living independently for the first time, in a new place, as well as what I might expect from the dating scene. I'll be in close proximity to a lot of males with the same career prospects, and our program is among other comparable ones under one umbrella university so I'll be meeting plenty of people organically. I don't have much dating experience myself, as every past experience has been disappointing so I kinda just stopped trying after a while.
Thanks, ladies!! x
Work out with your new roommates the "overnight guest" situation. I would suggest no male overnight guests period. I have watched too many true crime shows where one girl is dating a LVM and he ends up killing the other roomates as well as the girl he was dating. Whatever rules you decide upon get yourself an extra lock on your bedroom door.
There will probably be some group(s) or club(s) on campus related to your field that you can join. Join them. Obtaining good grades matters of course, but this is the perfect opportunity to begin networking in your field. If at all possible, see if one of your professors can mentor you. Research all of the professors in your program and the subject of their publications. After a few months of being in the program, find a professor whose interest aligns with yours and schedule a time to speak with him or her during their office hours. Ask for guidance and recommendations since your professional interests are so similar.
I *highly* suggest not dating any of the men in your program or the cohort(s) ahead of you. Everyone in your program is a potential professional ally. Men do more for you if you don't sleep with them. If you date one of the men in your program the other males in the program will judge you negatively or resent you for doing such.
Learn to budget, put your savings in a high yields savings account, have a ricecooker which is convenient for easy meals(you can make soup too) cooking will save you a ton of money, having a cleaning schedule so you won't get overwhelmed by housework are some of the things I can think of rn.
Living on your own is so peaceful, it'll grow to be easy for you