Male entitlement to women's time

My former boss used to call me outside of work hours on my private phone at insane times (on weekends/holidays or really early in the morning and really late in the evening) to discuss work stuff all the time. And not 2-minute-calls to quickly check something urgent, 20+-minute ramblings about things that weren't even actually my job and could definitely have waited until I am back in the office. I honestly think he was just bored and lonely sometimes and wanted an audience for his monologues.

At some point I was so annoyed that I started documenting the exact times and durations of the calls and entering them as working time and told him I could either consider them overtime (with the additional pay that entails, especially for weekends and holidays) or take time off to compensate. Miraculously, the calls stopped.

My friend was a high-skilled self-employed consultant for several years. I hated hearing about how much additional work she had to do chasing down her male clients to pay their invoices! They sought out her expertise, but as soon as the bill came around, they did not value her work and tried to weasel out of paying her. Moral of the story, be ruthless with who you entrust with your time and effort, even in a business context.

A dude with broken English asked if we could talk while I’m sitting on a bench in front of a movie theatre building at night waiting for the movie to begin.

I said no thanks and he became irate asking why can’t we talk. Well because I don’t owe you anything. And I don’t talk to men at night. At night I want to be left alone.

Also I’ve seen a dude responding to my comment about a well planned picnic is my bare minimum for a date. He said Coffee dates are better because you can’t get to know a person without investing a lot on a stranger. So I said yeah but you gladly fuck that stranger on the first date. Why do women need to settle for your crumbs but we need to give you sex for being nice?

I also have A passive income, where I sell my art work. I don’t charge ppl for my time if they send a msg about a custom request. One person said “Hi, You’re beautiful, “ I didn‘t respond to that so I’ve send him a preview of the things I sell, and then he was like ”Oh I’ll buy for sure but I would like to get to know you better” I don’t know what happened but I became very annoyed and said “Look if you want attention for free then move on, my time needs to be compensated.”

Then he was like “You won’t get any money talking to ppl like that I was going to give you money” I only said Hi that’s it”

I just blocked him. I hate men who become little children when you put them in place. If I like a seller a lot I would never ever behave this way. I would buy some custom content from their shop to show my support. Unfortunately men are not wired to put respect before their desires.

Please tell me you told this scrote that there was no mistake and you expect payment because you warned him beforehand? Please tell me that he accepted to pay? Fuck him if he tried to pretend that he didn't know you were charging. You warned him, if he's not blind or deaf, he has no excuse.

May years ago when I was on FB, I made a post — STOP ASKING WOMEN TO WORK FOR FREE. I used to be a social worker and the amount of “do you mind if I just run this by you?” calls I got was unreal. The indignation when I told them there’s be a fee was even worse.

I’m having major surgery in April. My husband and I need help getting things ready. I reached out to all my friends (2 of which are gay men) and all of the women were like, “absolutely, I’m there, whatever you need, babe.” But the men - ffs, every excuse imaginable. But, when they need emotional support, they expect that phone to be answered.

I’m not sure at this point if I’ll continue a friendship with them. What I’ve learned about male friends is that they will help you at anytime if it’s something they’re comfortable doing (manly stuff), but if they’re unfamiliar and they can’t show off their masculine skill, they get all feared-up about looking stupid. Women — they don’t care if you ask them to move a dead body - they have your back.

I dealt with this too, unfortunately. My solution was people pay me BEFORE I put them on my calendar even for a call. Or, work calls into a monthly retainer fee so everything is covered upfront and you're not watching the clock.

That said, retainers aren't failsafes, and EVERY time I got screwed over, the offender was a man. I had 2 jobs back to back where the male CEO reneged on his promises and decided to stop paying me.

In one case, the guy decided he no longer needed my services as of the previous week. You read that right: He decided to retroactively end my work, so he wouldn't have to pay me for the week of work I already did.

I immediately stopped working and sent an invoice for all my work to date to his accountant, who was like, "WTF, we need to pay her!" and paid me. So thankfully I got all my money.

I was a linchpin in the company and the idiot terminated me so quickly that it threw the whole company into disarray. Nobody had any idea where anything was. I just directed them back to the CEO and was like, "Sorry, he told me I was no longer required. It was surprising to me too but what can you do?"

Two weeks later, this guy's new business partner (who was just as much of an idiot as he was) had the audacity to email me asking where stuff was and could I help them out with a few things, because "it would be a nice favor." The audacity of this moron trying to guilt me.

I blocked them all and didn't reply. Manipulation doesn't work on me.

FOR YEARS, I got emails from customers who managed to track me down, begging me to help them because these assholes were fleecing people. I was shocked but couldn't help them. No surprise their dishonesty extended beyond their employees.

What a pain. In future, can you send the charge to be paid/agreed to prior to the call?