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Do you run your own business that serves women only? If yes, please read on, I'd love your thoughts/insights.
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Do you run your own business that serves women only? If yes, please read on, I'd love your thoughts/insights.
I'm in the process of starting my business (or rather, a new iteration of it).
In the past I've offered my services to people of all and any gender. I'd worked with men (sometimes 1-on-1) and any queer person, letter of the alphabet etc etc etc, and sometimes groups that just happened to be all women. I'm tolerant and see people for who they are. Well... until this whole thing started to get out of hand, as many of us here are wising up to.
I'm not 'transphobic', and, I'm not saying that to 'defend' my next statements, because I don't need to do that. I know who I am. I'm sharing it for clarity only.
❗️I also don't want trans hate on this post, thank you. It's off topic and bad energy. Scroll on. ;)
Here's the actual thing: I know that moving forward I want to offer my services/offerings to women only. I've known this for quite some time, it's something I'm quite passionate about, and having been a woman in a male dominated industry, I know I can support other women navigating the minefields..
There may be a space for intersectional spaces, but I don't want this space (my work) to be it.
I don't feel the need to defend my position as I know it is well considered and comes from many years of experience.
That said, I'm about to really expand my reach and visibility. I want to clearly reach my people. And I am a bit nervous given the current climate of things. ie enforced 'inclusion' that ends up excluding a chunk of women.
I know/know of many women who successfully market their business(es) to women only and have no issues. They manage (for now) to skirt 'under the radar'. Occasionally they might let a man &/or trans'woman' in out of 'kindness' (or not wanting to stoke a fire/backlash?) but it definitely changes the dynamic 9 times out of 10 or more. However, as we all know, anyone, at any time can become a target for "TRAs" and others who want to invade womens' spaces, or destroy a woman's 'reputation'/business etc. ie cancellation I guess? My business is not a womens shelter/prison/sports club type thing. However, there are often women who come into my spaces with trauma (because so many women have traumatic experiences related to men!!), and in my experience, no one can really relax if there is a man in the room (or they go into 'fawn'/please/pick me state). 'Trans' or otherwise. Additionally, I don't want to work with men any more for my own safety and comfort reasons. I think I can only recall one single positive/nuetral experience with a male client, where he was genuinely there to learn and not somehow sexualizing me/getting ready to hit on me/had hit on me, or taking up way too much space that should have been for other participants/women. I want to attract women - and the right women - to my work ie in my marketing language, but I also don't want ick backlash. Maybe it is inevitable eventually... I am a part of a few business communities. They started out as womens spaces, but have evolved into aggressively woke intersectional spaces. Look, everyone needs a space, transpeople included, so I'm glad they have it BUT we need womens only spaces too, and literally ALL these WOMENS spaces are becoming 'intersectional' & at the cost of who? WOMEN. So yeah I don't feel like I can ask these questions in those spaces.
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️So, If you run a business, whether service based or product or both, and you serve women exclusively, I'd love to hear how you navigate this with some grace, in your marketing/comms/client/lead attraction etc! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
TIA
Market your business towards women and if you ever get a trans client who asks if they are “welcome”, just pull a “I'm not qualified” type of thing. Say that your work gets personal and you have no experience with the struggles trans people live with and you believe that they'd be better served by a provider who really knows what it's like. If you are attacked by non-clients for not being “inclusive”, play dumb. Say that nothing in your marketing material excludes trans people. Innocently ask why they think “for women” is transphobic, let them sound as stupid and unhinged as they are. You can reiterate that your expertise lies in helping women and that you're not trying to be everything to everyone because that's impossible and also dishonest. If someone insists you should “educate” yourself to be able to serve trans clients, ask if they'll pay for those seminars and your time off to attend them and watch them go silent lol.
I have no answer but I am excited to hear what other women have to say because I have wondering this.
Maybe turn it into a private, by invitation/recommendation only thing where the spots are limited?
They don't really have to be limited of course but if someone you don't want there calls and wants to get in you can just tell them they need a recommendation/invitation from two current members or clients and that there is a pretty long waiting list and currently no open spots.... not your fault if the waiting list is so, so long that there will never be an open spot for them.
These frankenstein transvestites would give you hate if you claim that biological females who are pregnant are called mothers, nope it's birthing person or a person with capability to become pregnant, These creeps have mocked and disrespected real women all the time with this Dylan Mulvaney creature. Don't worry about them, because you can't escape it.
There is a woman shelter and woman organisation community that only allow biological females in because the safety of women is more important than catering to delusional men. They get a lot of hate and tried to have the women safe house defunded by the goverment and boycott it but failed.
You need to stay strong and not back down because anything you say that doesn't translate to " Trans women are real women" will be seen as transphobic.
I went to a truly-only-women’s business before and their canned responses to men and trans people included the contact info of other business that cater to co-ed. That could be an option if they reach out to you, which may be an inevitability.
I know libs reading this post absolutely in shambles 🤣
Ooo this is good stuff, I've always wanted to start a business like this