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I went to work drinks, and someone who I thought was a "nice guy" got really weird with me during work drinks.
At every chance he got, in the convo he used it to neg me. He also tried to brag that he's clearly the hottest guy in the office, almost like he was trying to fish a compliment out of me? Then he did the classic "I think you have a moustache". (Btw I don't because I'm generally hairless and wax that area regularly).
I was like wtf is going on. Not only is this person meant to be a colleague, but he's actually quite senior in position. I was shocked at his behavior and creeped out.
This person is not traditionally good looking, but he's always had good contributions to work meetings, and has spoken to me nicely before in the office so I thought he was normal respectable person.
Ironically, the more traditional good looking guys at my office are always really respectful when talking to women or good-looking women. It's honestly sad how the men who aren't are really resorting to negging tactics to try get women above them to be on their level. It's so creepy and weird!
I'm honestly so shocked and not sure what to do anymore when I see this person in the office. Unfortunately he is an external stakeholder for my team that I will need to work with in the future. Just so creeped out and never want to socialize with him outside of work meetings ever again.
Any advice or thoughts?
The last time I attempted befriending a male he tried this on me. It was definitely weird and I still have no idea what specifically motivated him to make that comment. Even if it was a pure case of putting your foot in one's mouth, that accidental slip still revealed what he's thinking inside...so whatever. I'd say, good riddance. Don't get close. Just keep a polite distance.