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Ladies, I've had enough.
When I was younger I'd always get spoken down to or told I can't do such in such coz I'm a 'girl'
I'm not aged between 0 and 11/12.
I'm not a girl.
I'm on a sex and relationship strike, probably for the rest of my life. I don't care. I'm missing crap sex and mistreatment. In essence, nothing.
However, on rare occasions I have to deal with men; when I work or need some sort of house maintenance that I don't have an expensive tool to do the job myself or can't physically lift something with only one person.
I notice this new man wave of don't touch her mindset also. And how it escalates to utter abuse from one stranger to another.
For younger women and women who don't have to regularly deal with aholes, please list below how you all handle men in certain situations. I don't have the headspace, effort or life time to think up shte to re-assert myself when a man or group of men is / are trying to degrade me.
Dealing with house maintenance at present with yet another man who will only communicate with my father or brother. Oh so sick of this shte treatment but unfortunately a job that cannot be done without.
I work in a male dominated field filled with contractors, architects, my dad works on cars and I'm learning from him + reading books about it.
Can I just say most men are idiots? They're not useful by any means. They get maintenance tips from reddit and YouTube videos. There is no secret compelling thing that they know that you can't possibly understand. My dad (who has been a Mechanic forever alongside his dad) literally watches YouTube videos and tells me to do the same any time I have a car / house problem.
For the strength thing I'd recommend a cheap planet fitness gym membership 11$ a month and some protein powder and maybe only 3 weeks of training.
I Have hated men my whole life and I was totally ready to be on my own forever, they're not useful, they can't even exercise correctly or do their jobs well.
Contractors are idiots, I work with them each day. Anyone can be a contractor with enough YouTube videos and forming a free LLC and spending money on licenses that are practically handed to them for being "big boys who gotta support a future family" while the women work twice as hard for the same licenses because the tester at the end is a greasy dude.
You can literally do anything you need to do, there is no secret sauce that only a man has. I have a baby face and can leg press 500 lbs.
You have no idea how many men get up from being on their phones for 6 hours just so they can """help""" and """feel important""" even though they did nothing all month and I could replace them tomorrow.
Don't play meek, don't play shy, give eye contact and get straight to the point. And sometimes it's the job itself, sometimes you have to ask yourself "do I get paid enough to be surrounded by low value males? Do I get paid enough for them to even look at me?". They're useless scum and there's always a way to avoid their help. Whether it's exercising or using a ladder or reading a book on a topic.
Sorry for sounding aggressive, I just got out of a workplace that consisted of only two males. I did all the heavy lifting, all the work but they were pissy because I didn't make them feel important. The assistant store couldn't answer basic questions or answer the phone but I'm the incompetent woman? That's what they want you to think. Don't fall into their trap, you can do this.
Also read reviews before paying to get work done, wether it's on Google reviews, yelp, Facebook etc. You can also rent expensive tools sometimes.
Fire him on the spot then hire another
Ask, "What brother/father? Do you see one here?"
Ask for recommendations for service workers if you can. This will help avoid the assholes
Lastly, if you want to go nuclear, ask, "Are you and I going to have a problem here?"
With contractors who don't talk to you, I'd firmly say "I'd like to remind you that it is me who will pay your bill, not my father/brother/etc. so it would be wise to actually ask ME about how I'd like the job to be done." Shit like that is exhausting, but sadly most men need reminding of the fact that women are just as capable, that they rightfully earned their job and their money, and that they have to listen to what a woman tells them even if they'd rather hear it from a man. Just don't stay silent. Our silence validates their behavior. Be uncomfortable. I know this goes against everything we've been taught, but it's the only way. What are they gonna do? They presumably want and need your business. If they don't, their loss, you can go elsewhere.
You sound like me. From construction background also. You don't sound aggressive to me. The tool I need is a three tonne digger for drainage works. I've one eye but I know how to drive the digger, prices to hire have just gone too high and I don't have 20k to buy a second hand good one. I'm stuck with this guy coz I'm heading into autumn/ winter and everyone else is tied up til next year. Men suck, they provide sperm but that's it. Women do everything in life.
Stand your ground. If a man refuses to communicate with you directly, assert yourself firmly. Express that you are the one in charge and expect to be treated with respect. If necessary, involve a trusted friend or family member to support you in asserting your authority. Remember, you deserve to be treated with dignity in all situations. Iam just thinking to start something were everyone gets to know about business and business entity process.