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This is an old book but omg it is full of gems. Straight from the Scrote's mouth. He lists out multiple excuses that men give when they don't want to commit, and it's like reading a collection of all the posts that FDS women put up before they leveled up and realized the shit men pull. This book and Why Men Love Bitches should be mandatory reading for every last woman. In case people dont know, it was written by two writers from SATC while discussing it in one of their writer's rooms, and covers the ground on the list of excuses men have to not date women.
Ladies trust your instinct and stop wasting time prioritizing a man who treats you like an option. Let me know if any of you have read this book.
There's a section near the end of the book called 'Standard Suggestions', which presents all the obvious things we shouldn't accept in relationships with men. This should be the absolute bare minimum level of standards for every woman. Very worth memorising. STANDARD SUGGESTIONS
I will not go out with a man who hasn’t asked me out first.
I will not go out with a man who keeps me waiting by the phone.
I will not date a man who isn’t sure he wants to date me.
I will not date a man who makes me feel sexually undesirable.
I will not date a man who drinks or does drugs to an extent that makes me uncomfortable.
I will not be with a man who’s afraid to talk about our future.
I will not, under any circumstances, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me.
I will not date a man who is married.
I will not be with a man who is not clearly a good, kind, loving person.
I'm old enough to have read and internalized this book before some FDSers were born. I read it the year it was published, right in the bookstore, and it changed my life.
I consider it a must-read for heterosexual women of all ages. If you are interested in dating heterosexual men, you must read this book.
The lessons in the book are just as relevant now (2024) as they were back then (2004). The takeaway is if a man doesn't act like he's into you...then surprise, surprise, he's just not that into you! And we never settle for men who aren't that into us.
I have the book downloaded on my phone and re-read it every year for pleasure and guidance.
P.S. Even though 2004 was 20 years ago, the communication technology wasn't vastly different from what we have now. We had cell phones, email, dating apps, online forums, and instant messaging. I even had Facebook in 2004.
Oh, how I loved that movie when I was younger lol.
What did you think of the scene where Gigi cleans up someone else's kitchen? It still irks me till this day!
This book was written before the age of smartphones, how relevant do you think this book is? Also, is texting on par with emails? Or should he actually pick up the phone and call you? I’m a millennial and nobody really calls anyone anymore since it’s weird… or is it? 🫣