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Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl.
Men actually think this girl exists.
Maybe they’re fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl.
For a long time Cool Girl offended me. I used to see men – friends, coworkers, strangers – giddy over these awful pretender women, and I’d want to sit these men down and calmly say: You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss them.
I’d want to grab the poor guy by his lapels or messenger bag and say: The bitch doesn’t really love chili dogs that much – no one loves chili dogs that much! And the Cool Girls are even more pathetic: They’re not even pretending to be the woman they want to be, they’re pretending to be the woman a man wants them to be.
Oh, and if you’re not a Cool Girl, I beg you not to believe that your man doesn’t want the Cool Girl. It may be a slightly different version – maybe he’s a vegetarian, so Cool Girl loves seitan and is great with dogs; or maybe he’s a hipster artist, so Cool Girl is a tattooed, bespectacled nerd who loves comics.
There are variations to the window dressing, but believe me, he wants Cool Girl, who is basically the girl who likes every fucking thing he likes and doesn’t ever complain. (How do you know you’re not Cool Girl? Because he says things like: “I like strong women.”
If he says that to you, he will at some point fuck someone else. Because “I like strong women” is code for “I hate strong women.”)
The movie monologue: https://youtu.be/0o4heKCLeTs
Uhhh. HV men don’t want cool girls lol. LV men do tho, which is why you avoid these men and go for men who respect your boundaries and see women as human beings. I agree that men who say they want “strong” women are really there to drag you down, chew you up, and spit you out. Avoid at all costs, they’re not good men.
I LOOOOVE this dialogue. I've recently watched the movie (yes I lack the movie culture), I totally loved the Amy character. I don't think she's a "feminist" icon (I mean clearly she's not), but she's EVERYTHING men's rights activist's afraid of and I love that. I'm even inspired by the way she pursued and got everything she wanted (of course not in a way I'll go around blaming men with false accusations, I just loved that this female villain exists and I loved that she's ambitious, put-together, calculating, manipulative etc.) She just takes this "women" concept in society's eyes and plays with it, use it to her advantage, bend it however she likes, acts like different tropes of women to get her way. She kills Desi because he was pushing him to a role she clearly doesn't wanna be, he was forcing her to be "cool girl", making her fall in line with his fantasies of her and I honestly love her for that too.
On the FDS subreddit there was a post asking “what cool girl behaviors you have had but never again?”. It was soooo interesting to read the answers and how the queens leveled up!
I pretty much have this memorize lol If men can have the Joker and Tony from Scarface, we can have Amy Dunne.
I don't think HVM want a Cool Girl at all. The ones I know would be absolutely repulsed if their girlfriend or wife belched, farted, was a huge sports/football fan complete with yelling at the screen during games, etc. They want women who are unapologetically feminine but have a backbone and know who they are and what they want out of life. They want a queen, not a vulgar class clown who wears a size 2.
LVM want a Cool Girl because she has no real needs of her own and she can "hang out" with his guy friends without annoying him too much and as a bonus she'll be his bangmaid after the big game is over and his buddies have gone home. But that's not a life or role any woman should aspire to, IMO.
Love the book and loved the film too.
I loved this part of this movie so much. I think a lot of woman relate to it. The cool girl is kind of a pick me girl who will be into anything her guy is into just to please him. Been there. Then he leaves for someone he thinks is more “fun”. Even though he has no idea that other relationship will bring it a lot of the same issues. The “cool girl” doesn’t nag him to pick up his stinky socks. The cooool girl doesn’t nag him at all. No, she just smiles and makes his day better….Superrr unrealistic.
My NVMx shamed me for rewatching that cool girl scene.
I loved this movie even as a pick-me/cool girl lol the cognitive dissonance was strong. Now tho I watch this anytime I feel sad about an ex lol
Gone Girl is full of misogyny. The book is, I'm not sure if the movie is because I haven't seen it.