I got subtle creeper vibes from my stepdad growing up, but aside of him asking once or twice if I was stuffing my bra, nothing sounded the alarm. As far as I know, there were no bathroom cams, and he didn't openly perv on teens or anything when I was growing up. Everything was fine, until he asked to have sex with me one day. He was driving me home from my first court appearance after my divorce to figure out custody. He took me to a truck stop, and I got a mountain dew. He said I looked dirty and he'd pay for a shower. I'd never been to a truck stop before and he had NEVER hit on me before, so when he walked me to the shower, and closed the door behind him, I was mostly confused, despite being around 25. He asked if I wanted to "do anything" and I said "... Sexually, no..?" and he said "okay." I said I need to take a shower so just don't look if you're going to be in here. We had shared hotel rooms before, and he had a LOOOOONG track record of NOT being innapropriate with me, so I really didn't know he'd flip the switch here. I walked around the corner and started showering after telling him to stay and that he really shouldn't be in here. He walked over, looked me up and down naked, and then left. I told his wife (who he was married to at the time) about two years later, and she blocked me. I also gave her screenshots of ANOTHER woman saying that he was soliciting HER for sex while he was married to her. Women who are male-identified will not believe you, and hate themselves more than they want to have good lives.
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I wouldn't feel comfortable showering in a room with a man without a lock after he made his intentions clear to me.
I also would not feel comfortable showering in a room with a man I am not in a relationship with.
This sounds horrifying to have went through. I get that you may have felt comfortable after years and grooming, but one thing I have learned is don't give men the benefit of the doubt.
Yep. I'm sorry you went through that, and also am not surprised at all by the reaction of the wife. It's honestly sad the excuses women will internally make for these scrotes and how they will throw other women under the bus for them. I'm now thinking of all those girls who were assulted by their mother's partners (sometimes the fathers, sometimes not) and how so often these so called 'mothers' do nothing to protect their own kids because they're so busy simping over a low value scrote. Just had a frustrating incident recently where a friend of mine decided to go back to an ex who cheated on her. A different female friend of ours also told my friend that he was flirting with and harassing her (which actually adds up because my friend had previously mentioned that he watched p*rn with women more like our other friend's body shape/ look). Now my friend is convinced that the other woman is lying just on the basis of her ex (or bf again now, I guess) showing her some whatsapp messages where it looks like the other girl was sending him messages but he wasn't replying. I asked her, well, how do you know he wasn't calling her, or sending her messages elsewhere that he deleted? She had no answer but kept blindly insisting that her bf was innocent (even though he already has a track record of cheating,). She didn't even properly talk to the other woman about the incident though they were supposedly friends for years. Its extremely frustrating when stuff like this happens beacuse not only does it make me lose what little hope I had for men to be decent human beings, I also lose faith in women, since most are so male identified/ in desepration for male validation that they have no sense of solidarity with other women.
He set you up, you understand that right? By saying you look dirty you need a shower, he was setting up the scenario of you being naked in an isolated location where he could take advantage of you. How dirty were you that you felt the need to accept his offer? Didn't he just pick you up from the court house? So you should.be clean and in proper business attire for a court right? I'm not blaming you for his behavior, I'm just wondering why you thought you needed a shower after a court appearance??
Why is it so often the "stepfathers"?
It's giving me more of a reason everyday to oppose the remarriage of women while they have daughters already. Not good at all to bring a grown man into the house.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's horrifying what desperation for male attention will allow 😢 And I'm aware that women who allowed these things are often products of abuse themselves but I just can't understand it.
I feel like 25 is an age you should really really know better. Your parents totally failed...like why are you trusting a freak that's not even related to you in any way....like might as well be an in law 🫡