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What is the FDS stance on prenups?
Assuming FDS is pro-prenup, when should it be brought up, and who should bring it up? I feel like timing is key; you don't want to do it too soon or too late.
What should be included in a prenup that benefits the woman (particularly a childfree, never-married woman)?
I am brand new to the prenup game and would love to hear your thoughts.
Bring it up once the subject of marriage comes up. As for what to put in a prenup, it all depends on your situation, but the common one should be:
Separate debt. Make sure your husband couldn't take debt in your name.
Cheating clause. Depend on where you live, this can be tricky, but his reaction to it can tell you so much about his intentions.
How asset is separated if there's a SAHP. Even if you don't intend to SAHP, we don't know what might happened in the future, so make sure you're okay if someday you lose your job or have a child.
If you planned to open a business, make sure he doesn't have any claim to it by putting it in a prenup.
FDS is for it! With timing, I would say when making marriage plans like the other member posted and start gentle talks about it sooner. I would make sure that in the case of divorce, you can live comfortably in terms of finances. Make sure you would always be okay no matter what happens. Housing, car, furniture, alimony, and everything else is up to par with your standards.
It's insane how much men in divorce want to financially kill off their ex spouse to the point of poverty. I've seen it a million times with divorcing men so make no mistake about the financial lengths they will go to in order to hurt you once it's over. Consider everything and have a lawyer review it.
I believe being a good partner also means you are protecting your loved ones from yourself too.
It's fine to settle for a prenup if he's fine to settle for an aids test as soon as he want sex. Men always act like you can take advantage of them but become angry when you are distrustful of them.
I'd bring it up pretty early just to gauge his general opinion. Just mention that a couple you know has one/plans on getting one similar to what you would want and see how he reacts.
I think mentioning it once you are already making wedding plans is way too late.
See, I would never marry. I am scared to death about letting a man access my money again. Nope. Only living apart for me.
I guess once you start making wedding plans? If it hasn't come up in conversation organically by then, that would be the best time, in my opinion.
As far as what to include in thr prenup, make sure he gets NOTHING that belongs to you, and make sure you gain SOMETHING valuable to show for your time spent on him, should you end up divorcing.