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Thanks to Netflix, I'm finally able to watch Sex and the City. It's been on for the majority of my life, however this is the first time I've ever watched it.
I haven't written anything on here in over a year, but Steve has forced my hand.
Miranda, a successful 30 odd woman, lives and works in Manhattan. She's a single lawyer who just bought her first apartment. Then she meets Steve. Steve is a bartender who talks like a mentally challenged child. Steve somehow gets Miranda to go out with him even though he sounds like Adam Sandler in Little Nicky.
Steve then starts badgering Miranda for a baby, and she's like - what are you crazy? He's like no! I'll watch him during the day and then go work at the bar at night! And she's like, what, so I can work 14 hours a day for this apartment then stay up all night with the baby? I was so overjoyed when she walked away from him the first time.
Then she goes back to him. And has a baby with him anyway. I was yellling at my television when she was deciding to keep his baby. I loved Miranda until that very moment.
To pour salt on the wound, when the baby comes, Miranda's apartment is too small for all three of them. So Steve forces her to move to a dump in Brooklyn. Miranda doesn't want to move to Brooklyn as she loves Manhattan. All her friends are there, her job is there, and cabs don't even go to Brooklyn. The house Steve wants HER to buy is run down. Steve has brought Miranda down so far on the socioeconomic ladder that she has no choice but to bite the bullet and move to Brooklyn. She then ends up acting as provider for him, his dog, the baby, and his mother. She is so strung out by her situation that she can't even relax on her own honeymoon.
Despite Steve, there are so many good men in that show. I loved Aiden, and Charolette's second husband Harry. Loved Samantha's boyfriend in season 6. I even loved Charolette's gay best friend. Have definite mixed feelings about Big.
Steve is the devil disguised as your friendly neighborhood blue-collar guy. If he had come in guns blazing, acting like an aggressive douchebag, Miranda wouldn't have given him a chance. He was the quintessential wolf dressed in fluffy sheep's clothing.
We all need to be aware of devils in disguise. A man who is nice on the outside could be very harmful for us in the long run. This is why "nice", "easygoing", "unassuming", and "friendly" are not enough.
To add to all of this, Miranda ended up PROPOSING TO HIM. The whole Steve arc was so sad and embarrassing for her. She was given so many horrible mummy bangmaid-y lines too, like "My new favourite thing to do on Saturday nights is Steve's laundry." UGH.
He was indeed. I only watch this show now for the clothes. Carrie was the least interesting character and I wish the storylines of the other three women had had greater depth. Things always stopped right at the point of validating pickme relationship norms, whereas pulling back the curtain and showing the brutal consequences of those pickme norms would have been the truly edgy and interesting thing to do, instead of just showing a bunch of women pretending to enjoy being slutty with scrotes, as we were all told to do in the 90s-2000s.