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You ever met a kid that acts nice and sweet in front of company, but then you hear they're a total nightmare at home? Believe the parent.
The dude who blew up my phone from five different numbers, and would not stop contacting me on FB until I told him I'd print everything out bumped into me yesterday.
Acting like we were cool (because men don't take our words or feelings as serious) he said "look who it is!" With a big, cheesy, gross smile.
I didn't even say hi back, but ignored him.
He did NOT act like a crazy idiot - because other people were there.
Before I leave town, I'm gonna print his picture out and all the crazy shit he did and put them around his complex.
This is also why you should always know where a man lives, but never, ever, EVER let him near your apartment if you don't want something long-term.
It's intentional and a common part of the cycle of abuse because it gaslights and isolates the victim.
Hearing what a nice and great guy their abuser is from everyone and seeing firsthand that he is absolutely capable of acting decent for other people is the key to victim blaming ("You/I must have done something wrong to provoke him. He's such a nice man!") and victims not seeking help because they think nobody will believe them.