Men saying they though their wife was the one the moment they saw her

We only hear about "love at first sight" stories when everything works out in his favor.

Sometimes upon meeting a woman for the first time, a man is instantly infatuated with her. If they wind up getting married, he'll say it was love at first sight.

If they date but it doesnt last, he'll say "I dont know what I ever saw in her to begin with."

If she brushes him off right away, he'll call her a stuck-up bitch and move on the the next woman.

Same beginning to the story - infatuation - with three different endings.

When I dumped my first bf he told me he had been sure I was the one and that we were going to get married. Where on earth he ever got that idea I'll never know. We were no good for each other, I had told him repeatedly that I was not interested in marriage, and we were 19!

Men are just dumb.

I'm not sure, but it always seems like such BS to me. I think it comes down to a man being ready for marriage, being strongly attracted to a woman, and that woman feeling the same way. We usually hear these stories once they're already married, but I bet they've had several 'the ones' throughout their lives where the feelings just weren't mutual.

This is antedocal, but my experience has been that men are far less perceptive at guaging compatibility than women. They might be captivated by love (moreso appearance) at first sight, but that’s it. Once they’re infatuated they’ll try their hardest to project an image and traits onto you, and ignore anything that challenges that.

I find women are more observant, even if they find a man attractive they’ll sit back for a bit to observe their level of compatibility.

Timing plays a huge role. If a man is financially stable and has a great job he may be more interested in marriage. His determination to get married can be a positive or a negative thing.

Positive= He sticks to his standards and finds his dream girl. He adores and appreciate her.

Negative= "The one" might just be any woman who was present when the timing was right. Ex:Hailey Bieber

"wow she's so sexy but not too sluutty, I would not get bored soon of her, I hope she's not a beeech but if she is who cares imma marry her" yep we all know the rationality of the stereotypical male boxer-brain aka the penis. Artists especially are known to be so smart Noble prize winners, not at all overpaid attractive people who work with their emotions and are paid to Lie, lol, and they neeeever end up drug addicts and so on, right? I call it Bs. Especially the pretentiousness or condescending way they imply that she would say yes to him.

There's a quiet knowing/sense (confirmed by vetting, which a HVM will also be doing), versus an an infatuation/fantasy projection.

I agree. I think the line is nonsense and hate that women keep believing such rubbish.

Even if it were true he likely said it about multiple other women before.

The same way many women will claim they slept with their partners on the first night and are happily married, but not mention the many other times they did the same that ended in tears.

I honestly think it's how men are but only in person when they can see a woman's facial expressions, body language, and how she interacts with others around her as well as how the she is perceived by others (men are conformist so what other men think really really really matters to them)

Men touching themselves to Instagram pics is NOT IT and is what most dusties can only do, I think if a dusty saw his dream girl his fragile ego would destroy it every time.

When men are hvm with careers they're not as self destructive. The comedian bill burr describes this feeling about his wife that she "had this big fearless energy". It's not just about looks yall.

There have been a couple of very rare times when I've felt an attraction to a man from the very first moment I saw him. I kind of wish that this would happen instead of "having to give them a chance." Of course, I'm commenting from the woman's perspective, not the man's.

I believe in intuition and just "knowing" things you cant explain logically and that it's not exclusive to women. Of course there are 8 billlion people in the world and not all of them do a certain thing for the same reason. But I think someone who is wise, in touch with themselves and generally happy with their life can "know" and it's about more than looks, it's a recognition of energy which I don't think can lie, only we can lie to ourselves. When it does go wrong that doesn't mean they werent meant to be together either, because we all have things we need to face and relationships with all kinds of people are always mirrors into our own psyche.

I don’t know about SEEING someone and knowing.

Maybe on the first date or meeting he knew there was something special about her.

I have a friend and she’s been with her husband for about 10 Years. They met at work and she didn’t date co workers, so they stayed friends for about a year and dated after that.

She says that during their friendship she felt he was the one. He says he knew he was gonna marry her from the moment they met.

He’s hv. I think we shouldn’t marry men unless they’re like her husband. He’s really one in a million.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 1.5 year now, and he told me that he knew he didn’t want anyone else about 5 minutes into our first date. He so far has been the best bf I’ve had.

So I do think when men know, they will pursue, when it ends well it’s easy to say it’s love at first sight.

It’s not always love bombing and manipulation.

I think you want someone that has strong feelings from the beginning.