Men below age 25 are mostly trash. Men above age 35 are mostly trash. Act accordingly.

I see OPs point, but it does reek of scarcity mentality and seems to put more pressure on women. We need to be looking at a lot more than age range, and what if you disregard someone who falls out of that range who happens to be HVM?

Relationships break up for all sorts of reasons and I have met HVMs who were single not because "something was wrong with them" or they "couldn't get a woman" but because a true HVM seeks true compatibility, and sometimes a woman, no matter how wonderful, just isn't compatible. They may have different life goals, e.g. she wants kids, he doesn't (which is one of the reasons I broke up with a HVM).

Stay hopeful ladies.

That's how I see it, too! A man I would consider HV is someone who cares about true compatibility, not the "well, she's convienently there, so I guess she'll do" guys, those guys are dime-a-dozen, I don't want any of those.

So yeah, if we're playing the numbers game, I might be cutting off 90% of men right there, to use a made-up statistic. Perfect. Less is not always bad. There aren't that many who fit this criteria, so most don't make it through the first round of vetting, and I end up wasting less time on men overall.

You know what's not a made-up statistic? 100% of men who are now over 35 were once 25 to 35 😉

I don't subscribe to the idea that the ones who get "scooped up" within an arbitary age range are "the best ones". Best ones for who? Not for me. So what does it matter to me? Is this idea even helpful to women out there who are in this age range? Doesn't it just make them feel like they have to race against a clock lest they "miss the boat"?

Outside of FDS, women already get too much pressure to race against arbitary clocks.

It's okay to want certain things in life, but it's not to our benefit to get bummed out by the possibility of not getting what we want. Okay, I'll admit I do want romantic love, but I'm still secure in the knowledge that I have enough, with or without that. That puts me in a stronger position to walk away from men who could be bad news.

What I really really want is for every woman to feel that secure! To that end, I want to be careful about pushing ideas that undermine that.

i, too, am starting to rrealize how common this is...thank you for sharing!

I wouldn't let the younger ones use older women for "hook up" only expierence.

Unless they are very much worth it, they get way more clout and bragging rights for the hook up and will always see the older woman as being grateful. No matter how hot or HV she is.

What study shows that? Last I check the peak age for men to commit into relationships is 26-32. After that the older they get the less they are likely to have any interest in long term relationships, and just wanna use women. OP is being generous by giving men till 35, most single men beyond 33 are just trash.

Yes, I was being generous. Thank you for pointing that out.

These naysayers probably aren't 35-plus women themselves. Perhaps they are men.

Find your own.

Better yet, open your eyes and take a look around.

"Yes, I know men are mostly trash at any age. But we're comparing relative concentrations here."

Since you made this claim, I'm not the one obligated to back up your theory. To come to this tired ass conclusion on FDS that every pickme mindlessly repeats to scare women into settling young, I was hoping for some kind of actual statistics or study.

Based on my own observation there is absolutely nothing special about men between 25-35. In fact, these men are overwhelmingly overestimating their value & still thinking they have all the time in the world, which is reflected in their dating habits.

And all the people downvoting my comment, one word hurt your feelings... think critically instead of having such a fragile ego.