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He’s a part-time Rolfer and full-time history professor.
Academics in my city are not highly compensated, so I imagine he Rolfs for the additional income and because he enjoys it.
I'll add that most professors (including tenured faculty) in my city have some sort of side hustle because they don't earn a ton of money from their academic jobs. But I have never met a professor whose side gig is Rolfing.
IMO whenever a man has a job that gives him access to women’s bodies or souls, he is suspect.
This applies to OB/GYNs, nurses, masseuses, plastic surgeons, physical therapists, yogis, religious leaders, coaches, teachers, etc.
If the guy has had tons of therapy, is emotionally intelligent, and has let go of his attitude that “women are objects for men’s gratification” (rare!), then maybe I’d give him a pass.
But it would be a huge hill to climb to earn my trust.
With his educational background there are plenty of part time jobs he could do that do not involve touching and massaging lightly dressed women he doesn't know.
Make of that what you will.
The fact that he seems to need an additional part-time job to get by would be a concern for me in general. It doesn't sound like he's in a financial position good enough to consider long term commitments and the financial investment that a relationship presents. He should focus on building his career or switching fields if the one he is currently in doesn't pay enough. I've worked in academia myself. I know it sucks. But if you are good enough to have a chance of making it in the field you apply for (and get) grants and additional funding. A scientist who is serious about his work spends his time doing research and applying for grants, not running a massage business on the side.
If he wanted to, he would easily find a better paying job utilising his education. 🚩
Why do you see it as a problem? What am I missing?