How should we ask a man to pay for cab fare before a date?

"Usually when he proposes the place I comment on it, for example: this place seems nice but it's far and I would need a cab to get there, would you be ok with paying for it?"

How did these men end up paying you?

Yes.

"Dating should be easy and fun. If a man can't make it worth your while to see him then why are you wanting to date him?"

This is my reasoning as well. A man who can't/won't take care of a woman on a date is not a man who should be dating. Period.

Did the men Venmo you the cab fare before the date or after they met you in person? I would prefer to see the cash in my account before I even start getting ready for the date. If he doesn't pay up beforehand, there's a chance he'll never pay.

Yes, before. You should have dates planned in advance, including the cab already being ordered and paid for just like if you were making plans to go on vacay.

I guess its possible, but he insisted on me getting home safely, walked me to the cab rank and gave me $20. I was genuinely impressed at such chivalry and had no reason to think it was anything else.

Shrug. Chalk it up to experience.

Trash took itself out?

He knew the right thing to do, but was still shitty about it.

Gain $20, lose a scrote. Sounds like a win to me.

"I don’t have an answer for this, but I bet they’d get upset if you asked/expected it."

And that's my beef with men refusing to spring for transportation costs. They might be "upset" if you ask them for $50 for cab fare, but they certainly have no problem asking for/demanding sex on a first date.

I disagree. It's normal for a man to cover the date, including travel expenses. The men who get upset about this aren't men we want in our lives.

This.

They should be jumping at the opportunity to see us in date clothing, going out with THEM.

If they aren't, then they either aren't interested in any good kind of way, or are fake liberals, where they want 50/50, but still dehumanize women.

Have you seen the parking fees in some cities? Upwards of $30/hour, if you can even find a parking spot.

Often, it's not possible to find a parking spot (free or not) within comfortable walking distance from the date venue. I don't know where you live, but in the cities I've lived, winter is not a great time to be out walking in the city for even a couple blocks if you're dressed to the nines and wearing the type of heels I like to wear on dates.

This is not even considering the price of gas.

Yes, I can drive, but I shouldn't have to if a man is asking to take me out on a date.

I have legs and can walk and take public transportation, too. My point is I shouldn't have to.

I shouldn't have to feel frazzled or worn out before I even arrive at the restaurant.

Last but not least, I am not opposed to consuming a drink or two on a date, so I will not rule out that possibility.

You can have a date pick you up.

You should be expecting money from dates, for the food and to get you there. Point blank.

You can't discredit everything I say ever because you disagree with my choice to hitch a quick ride in a surprise snow flurry two weeks ago.

Thats not how logic works.

Side note: most male violence done to women is done by men the women know well. :>

Go to therapy.

Ummm, how about this: you're wrong and clearly aren't implementing FDS as well as me if A. You're so scared of men you're supposedly DATING that you can't get in their car (that's crazy, you probably shouldn't be dating them then), and B. I have friends, and we talk to each other and none of us need therapy.

Find an actual argument. Telling me to go to therapy because you're scared of you're own dates is sad.