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I'm 26F I've seen a guy 28M for almost 2 months already He initiated contact every day since we met, he plans the date with days of anticipation and is always looking for nice plays to go, and he pays for everything. He drives one and a half hours to see me every Saturday and we spend all day together.
And at first, I was truly mesmerized by this behavior - I know this is the bare minimum-
The dates passed by and he just kissed me once, then again and again but just at the end of the date and it was almost a passionate kiss more than a "romantic one"
But he has never hugged me or held my hand outside of those passionate kisses which made me feel like he was using me. At first, I thought he wasn't using me because he told me on the second date he was looking for something serious and because he waited until the 6th to do that, who waits that much if he is not looking for a hook-up?
He has never told me something like "You are pretty / you look nice today ", and I'm already expecting him to change.
Some background: he lives with his parents, he has never had a girlfriend and he only dated some girls for just months, at first I even thought he was a virgin. I asked him for more information and he told me that girls are the ones who dump him.
I want to leave but I need some encourage
If you want to leave, you should. Please trust your gut!!
Well done on trusting your gut and deciding to leave. You've already decided what's best for you—now you need to execute your decision. We FDSers support you.
Also, I don't know which culture he is from, but if he's 28, why is he living at home? This would be extremely suss in the U.S. A man who doesn't have his own place shouldn't be dating. He should be focusing on leveling up. If you date a man who hasn't leveled up in his own mind, then he won't respect you for dating him.
He sounds like a wet blanket. You’re going to be bored out of your mind, if this isn’t what you wanted, leave.
There are differences between respecting you enough to not initiate kisses/hold hands on first dates and not having the desire to do so. Does he look at you when he speaks, or is avoidant? Does he smile genuinely or does it seem forced? Not having had a girlfriend at 28 is definitely suspicious. Is giving me gay in covert vibes.