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I'm getting a lot of "nice guy"(tm) shit from dudes who treated me as disposable as a human when I was fat now that ive lost weight.
Like, I wouldnt want to date a fat or obese guy, but I also wouldn't torture them.
Dudes who straight up treated me like I wasn't a person a few years ago are pretending that they're kind people, and they aren't.
I'm even getting OUR rhetoric from them; "fat women usually are going through something and deserve respect."
They think I'm fucking stupid. They're the same dudes who acted like I wasn't a person. I'm literally getting dms with like, a two year gap between "id hit that, with my car" to "hey gorgeous," and you can see the dates with no messages in between.
Men are fucking vile predators.
I'm just blocking, but I know they're playing victim, like I'm a stick up bitch for "victimizing" them.
They need to be in unnamed body bags from wars. Not pretending they can not fuck up the more important, less violent, smarter gender.
They aren't capable.
I'm the same goddamn person, and I'm only dating for love with other woman. Men are for money or status (if you cant get it yourself).
I would just go ahead and tell it upfront that they're only wanting you after losing weight and tell them that they didn't give a damn before.
I can understand some of what you're going through. When I was going through puberty I was objectively fugly as hell. I was tormented for my big butt, and chubbiness which was mainly concentrated on my lower body and chest (hourglass). Being stick thin is a beauty standard in my home country, hour glass figures were only more acceptable around 2018 due to Western influence. It was just awkward going through puberty from 12 till 18, honestly I was just weird looking. However, once I was done with puberty and everything had settled at 19, my features changed for the better, I don't know what happened but my looks just did a 180 on me and I did slim down a bit. In high school boys either ignored me or rated me as negative numbers out of ten. I considered fat and ugly. But honestly becoming pretty and slimming down after puberty didn't make things better. Men started being falsely nice with the intention to trick and mistreat me. And when I went back to my hometown to attend a family wedding, the high school boys who wouldn't even acknowledge my existence were suddenly falling over themselves to talk to me and ask me out. From someone who went from ugly duckling to swan, I will die on the hill that pretty privilege does not exist. Being pretty puts a target on your back for abuse and violence from men. I would rather men went back to treating me like I don't exist or calling me ugly. It's way better than what I have had to endure for being considered attractive. I've had obsessive stalkers, diagnosed narcissistic men , and just men using me for status to show off to other men. It's been terrible to the point that I'm lucky to be alive.