Men want to go on and on about how courts favor mothers still. They actually don't; courts favor the primary caretaker, but still aim for as close to 50/50 as they can get, sometimes ripping actual babies away from breastfeeding moms who were encouraged to sacrifice their work situations for dudes who cheat on them. But I think they SHOULD favor mothers. Even if men somehow fill the gaps and stop physically abusing children and killing children and much higher rates (abuse stats include neglect, up to emotional neglect as abuse, so these stats are skewed when you look them up), who carries the baby and nurses? Have you SEEN "ephebophile" posts? These dudes want to FUCK children. The primordial bond between a mother and child is something men are inherently jealous of and cannot do - they are not the center piece in families, and that's why they enslave women. Courts NEED to actually discriminate here, otherwise marriage is not a good idea. A man can SAY he'll be with you forever, then fuck everyone in town, and make you pay child support for the kids YOU gave HIM. They do this shit and still think they're manly. Don't think it can't happen to you.
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When my parents went to court for custody of me, my mom was asking for full custody because he didn’t even live in the same city as us. Hadn’t regularly seen me in years at that point. He was asking for 50/50. The judge asked so what’s your plan, take this child away from her community and schooling and she’ll go back and forth between two cities for 6 months at a time? My sperm donor shrugged, told the judge he hadn't really thought about it and then admitted in open court that his girlfriend had filled out the paperwork for him………yeah my mom got full custody.
When my mother divorced my dad's useless bum he wanted to have shared costudy, so he has to pay less. He already got the car because he needed it to "go to work", leaving a single-mum with several children on her own behind. We then spent every other weekend with him, doing, guess what? Watching TV, playing video games and eating the food his new mommymcbangmaid cooked for us. Classic.
I think the mother should automatically get full custody if she was the prime caretaker (and if there isn't anything absolutely major speaking against it (like drug/alcohol addiction issues, her abusing the children, being mentally unfit to function in daily life and endangering the children because of that etc.)) at least until the child is of school age. Then you can do a shared-custody, weekend-dad-thing if nothing major speaks against it.
Small children need their mothers and carrying an infant or toddler back and forth between two parent's houses (and babysitters and a kindergarden and so on) all the time is just torture for them. Children need safety and security and a fixed schedule. If anyone proposed to do this with a young animal (say... a gorilla baby) they'd rightfully call it animal abuse and cruelty.
If you had to choose a random stranger to take care of your 6 months old daughter for a day, would you choose a woman or a man to take care of her? Most men and women would choose women. Therefore, family court should favor women.
Courts just need to give most or all custody to the person who's more fit to be a parent, and who's proven her/his fitness by already putting in a larger portion of child care, and who's lifestyle is more conducive to child care, and who has actually wanted to be a parent all along (and a good one at that) rather than simply wanting a heir without intending to do the hard work of parenting.
If the courts did that, then it wouldnt be their fault that mothers get primary care most of the time. Instead, the courts prefer a 50/50 strategy on an issue that isn't 50/50.
This is exactly what is happening to me right now. My ex scrote got me to sign over primary placement of our now teenage daughter, to him.
I was struggling at the time with alcoholism, and he was an overbearing bully, so, trauma addled me signed the papers.
Which included a child support obligation for me to pay HIM.
Last May, I hadn't had any replies to my text messages or phone calls to her (they conveniently didn't set up her voicemail box, so I couldn't leave messages), and she and I had had an argument over the phone, so I called the police department to get a welfare check done.
The officer called me back, and told me my daughter was fine, but she had blocked me. She went NC.
To say I am heartbroken over this is a huge understatement.
Of course, when my ex was with me, and I was sleeping with or while I was engaged to him, there were signs that he isn't a good guy.
Of course, me being in my former pickme state, I either ignored tell tale signs, or made excuses.
We had slept together one last time, after my Mother had passed away. I had gained a large amount of weight in a short time.
After he was done using me, I got the "I Have To Move On" speech.
From that time on, even though we weren't together, he started really treating me like a lump of fecal matter on the bottom of his shoe.
So, now I have a child support obligation at least until she turns 18 in a few months, and hopefully goes to college. My fiancee, who is a good guy, and has a good Stepparent relationship with her (or did), is stuck paying it.
On account of my not being able to work because of crippling PTSD, Fibromyalgia, and arthritis in my back, shoulders and knees.
Queens, learn from my mistakes.
Be very careful who you give your body to.
Practice sound birth control methods.
Don't have unprotected sex.
Possibly even if you're married.
Protect yourselves from betrayal and heartbreak 💔😥