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I know a lot of women who try to date women complain about shit that men would complain about, but I think our actual problems are different.
So, she called me her girlfriend and said we were dating, but brought her exes over. Then broke up with me.
I'm not saying it's useless to try to date women, and I still feel like my life partner is female, but many women who say they'll date another wan may not be doing it for the same reasons.
I want lifelong partnership, she wanted dudes to think her being bisexual was hot.
I'm glad she ended things, because I probably would have let her jerk me around.
Dating women probably isn't enough - they have to also not be misogynists.
I think dating women can be just as hard as dating men because of internalized misogyny. Women are programed to cater only to men's needs. And most have not deprogrammed their pickme mindset. Pickmes will hurt you. I'm sorry you're going through this OP 😞
A lot of women have internalized misogyny in them. I’m sorry you went through this. Take the time to heal and focus on yourself. Read the handbook again and watch for red flags whether it’s men or women. Love yourself first always! Hugs
I had a girlfriend only once. It was chaotic. She was bi and had a lot of negative internalized messages about it that got in the way. She felt guilty and ashamed the whole time. She was also very needy and demanded my constant attention. We were both going through divorces from abusive men. She was hurting outwardly a lot worse than I was. She got really jealous & suspicious of me. I had a child to take care of and she had terrible boundaries around that. It ended with her making terrible accusations of me simply because I didn't pay enough attention to her. When things are normal for me I can't take that kind of drama. But I was dealing with a real dirty jerk in a divorce so I already had too much drama and shit to deal with. She struggles with mental illness and was in a really bad place. I was only better off in that I wasn't struggling with mental illness but I was struggling with a creep and the shit he was still doing to me.
She went geographic and moved. We still kept in touch a little but it was bad for years and I kept cutting her out. She got married again and is still with him. She settled down but she still struggles with the mental health problems. She is better about managing them and recognizing it. I just never met another woman that was available or interested since. My social circles are mostly with married women. I'm so fed up with relationships in general I'm not sure I would be open to a woman. I don't know what to expect from a woman or how to approach someone who might be interested. I have found lesbians too forward for my comfort. I'm hopeless in that regard. I don't like someone jumping into my personal space too quickly and lesbians tend to move quickly when they identify someone they like. I finally figured out how to read men.
I also had a roommate who I didn't have romantic feelings for but I really liked having her in my life. I don't understand this dynamic. I just really care for some women in ways that are different from others but it's not sexual.
These posts are fishy if only we could hide all posts from specific sus accounts on here
So dating men doesn't work, dating women doesn't work. Damn. The common denominator is obviously patriarchy - that's the only solution. Idk what we're supposed to do.