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I am in my late 30s and have observed this phenomenon my entire life.
I think it's a sign of a man being mentally challenged or, more likely, lazy/careless. And we, at FDS, do not tolerate mentally challenged, lazy, or careless men.
This week, I blocked a man on OLD who answered only one question when I asked him two questions. This man was in his early 40s, had a master's degree in math, and seemed otherwise intelligent and polite.
I decided long ago, subconsciously, not to tolerate this kind of LV behavior. This week, I made it an explicit rule for myself.
If a man can't pay attention to the details early on, he will be a poor partner.
I’m a firm believer that in many cases, a non-answer IS an answer: 1) They know you won’t like their answer so they try to dodge it or 2) They don’t respect/value you enough to put in the time/effort to answer. If I get that vibe, then I immediately move on. Before FDS, I ghosted a guy because he answered only one question, then days later he finally answered the other question lol. He knew exactly what he did wrong.
It’s wild the level of weaponized incompetence around this. If you receive a list of questions to answer in a school/college exam or a business email, you better answer each one! Yet that goes out the window when it comes to answering your date or friend or whoever.
And if people are too busy to answer all the questions, just say “can’t respond right now! I’ll try answer everything later.” Or call them. Or at least acknowledge the question.
Yup, "must be able to answer more than one question sent within the same text message" is literally on my standards list because this phenomenon is so prevalent and I'm so fucking tired of it.
Totally agree, I've came across this woman who said she found out she shouldn't ask two questions because men will only answer one, the hell is with that?? How do women treat men like children but still can be attracted to them? 🤦♀️
I've made it a standard since then because this shit is embarrassing, it's obvious it's deliberate as there's no excuse, they can read, they read the question, they chose not to answer.
If they genuinely can't then porn has fucked up their mind they cannot do even basic comprehension.
Oh this is a big pet peeve of mine. Even before discovering FDS I noticed men would purposely ignore questions and it would piss me off.
STOP THE PRESSES: MAN ON ONLINE DATING IS STUPID. TONIGHT AT 9.
I'd add men (or rather... people... it drives me up the wall when women do it, too) who can't answer a simple yes or no question with a clear "yes" or "no" but either don't answer at all, change the subject or write a whole novel vaguely related to the question that doesn't answer the damn question, though.
An example:
"Are we still on for our trip on Saturday? When will you pick me up?"
The answer I expect: "Sure, I will pick you up at 9! I'm looking forward to it!"
The answer I get: a novel of random information about how someone's week was and how they are feeling, the weather on saturday, details of the trip that have nothing to do with my question and absolutely no reaction to my actual question.
I think sometimes it's just a cheap trick to get you to say "Oh, I'm sorry your week was so busy, you don't have to pick me up, let's do something you want on saturday instead!" so they aren't the bad guy who cancelled.
I agree with this so much. Was just thinking about this earlier today too. If I ever get even 1% of an inclination that a man is being dodgy/sketchy/hiding something, (not answering all questions are a perfect represenation of this), it's an autumatic ghost- do not pass go, do not collect $200.
Oh my god, I've had this problem in a professional setting most of the time. My supervisors have always been men, and I knew since the first few months of being employed that asking two questions in one was a guaranteed way for the first question to be completely ignored.
It's like they only have a limited amount of bandwidth and will only answer the last part and I've always wondered about it. Are they not reading the entire message? Are they just forgetting the first question as they're reading the second one? I was always about 90% sure there was no malice in any of these situations but it's like they have hardcore tunnel vision and can't comprehend more than one thing at a time, it's incredibly bizarre. I kind of always assumed that it was inherent to being in charge and super busy or something, like maybe if I had to direct a team I would gloss over a lot of the calls for my attention as well, especially minor ones, but this being a common experience for women in more casual contexts makes it so much weirder and more worrying somehow.
They're fully capable of it most of the time. They just can't be bothered. They are probably missing the voice in their head that says "it's polite to answer a question that a person asks" they literally lack the conscience. They're not mentally impaired, theyre not dumb, they can multitask, they can communicate. But only when they want to. Men easily answer multiple questions when theyre interested or trying to please us.
Usually though their attention is on something else, when they text their attention is not fully on you it's on whatever their doing, other women or their male friends. Big warning sign that he is not worth your time.
It's been my experience that a lot of men lie by omission or just evading the question. For example if a man is unemployed, he might evade questions about his work rather than actually lying about it. (That way they can claim that they never actually lied). That's why I am extremely wary of men who don't answer straight-forward questions with a straight-forward answer. It's also why I suspect these men are only answering one question when two questions were asked. They're answering the question they want to answer and ignoring the one that they don't.
Oh my god I thought maybe this was just my ex but nope! It’s a man thing.
Men are just less hairy apes
Wait, I locked myself out of Preddit. Can you summarize the post? Is it like you ask two questions in one message and he only answers one?