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As a person of Asian descent, I've felt this way since I was a little girl, and FDS has provided a platform for me to share this tip:
If you are an Asian woman, do not entertain men (particularly white men) if they, as adults, chose to live in Asia for any period of time longer than a few weeks.
Any white man who voluntarily chose, as a single man, to live in Asia for longer than the duration of a casual vacation is screaming to your face that he is a passport bro with an Asian fetish. There is also a strong possibility that he is a loser in his own country and a rapist.
In my experience, there are no exceptions.
The white programmer who worked in Tokyo for two years? Asian fetishist. (He raped me.)
The white lawyer who worked in Singapore for one year? Asian fetishist.
(He raped me.)
The white English teacher who lived in Beijing for one year? Asian fetishist.
(He raped a Chinese woman who was also his student.)
The white law student who studied abroad in Hanoi for one summer? Asian fetishist. (He cheated on his Thai wife with a Vietnamese woman and did not care who knew. Eventually, he divorced his wife to marry this woman. The ex-wife had to move back to Thailand because she didn't have a green card.)
The white startup founder who lived in Shenzhen for three months? Asian fetishist. (He tried to monkey-branch between his Chinese ex-girlfriend and me.)
The white hippie who built and lived in a yurt in Mongolia for nine months? Asian fetishist.
(He tried to drug and rape me.)
These are all men I actually knew. I could continue with the list, but you get the idea.
I repeat: there is a 0% chance these men are not Asian fetishists.
P.S. This rule does not apply if they lived in Asia as children, because they presumably did not have a choice. It also does not necessarily apply to men who were married when they moved to Asia.
Can confirm. I work in the English education industry and live in Japan. Any white dude I've met is LBH (Loser Back Home) and sus af. Avoid.
My Danish bestie lived in Bangkok for 16yrs w/her now ex-husband & I visited her there 8-9 times over the years. (Her ex was a closeted Asian fetishist who loved getting falling down drunk to cheat on her (almost daily) and spend the night with the ladyboys. 🤢 I finally managed to get her to see the FDS light and divorce his nasty ass a few years ago...but that's a whole other post of its own!)
She owned a Euro cuisine restaurant and I got to know some of the Thai ladies who worked for her over my weeks long visits. One night one of the girls asked me "how do I find a GOOD Western man?" I just laughed and told her that all the GOOD (read: HV) Western men are back in their home countries with their wives, lives & children. She called all the other young ladies over to hear me out.
I told them that a real HVM isn't going to be found living anywhere in Asia. (And they certainly won't find one online either.) I explained that the Western tourists weren't any better either as they're all dusty borderline-pedo Asian fetishist incel passport bros who can't get a Western woman to give them the time of day and are hoping that their money will essentially buy them a bangmaid who they assume has such a tenuous grasp of English that they'll never complain/nag/ask for a damned thing. They get off on exploiting such a disgusting power dynamic!
I tried to instill in them basic FDS aligned concepts and they were all very inquisitive, appreciative and asked a lot of intelligent questions which told me that they were truly interested in learning more. (This, of course, happened long before I had even heard of FDS proper...just my own set of expectations that just so happened to be very closely FDS aligned. I only wish I could go back now and find them so I could direct them here!
They (my race of males) think you guys are childlike virgins with fewer rights.
They want to pop girls' cherries, and they want blood and slavery.
You guys should be terrified of White dudes, because like any race of men, they're evil.
Agree 100% as a white woman who used to date white men who dated outside their race. They're disgusting and it's 100% ALWAYS a fetish. It's also never the popular white guys who have white women options, but the pudgy, balding, short, broke, and/or socially awkward men that white women aren't drawn to. Only when they blossom and get white attention do they drop the woc like a hot potato. Literally every single mixed kid I know is from the white dad/asian mom mix, met online, and the dad is a gross, smelly, weird creep while the mom is a gorgeous, funny, socially active butterfly. The men always have something nasty to say about how uppity and impossible his race's women are.
As I get older I see almost all interracial pairing tends to be built off of racist stereotypes and the fetishization of one another. I can think of only one IRL couple that's interracial and he doesn't say weird shit, but I also don't really hang around the man enough to know if he is actually worth it. I trust my friend to make the right decision tho. But yeah, one out of the hundreds I've seem around my city from old lovers, past teachers, to parents of friends/coworkers, and even just passing conversations it's all coming clear it's a fetish. Wretched.
Do I see why Asian and African women desperately want to date men of other races? Yes. Of course, but the grass is unfortunately not greener since it's almost 99.9% certain that the guy dating outside of his race is only doing so because women of his race find him repulsive and unworthy. My heart goes out to these women because even just numbers wise there's not enough dateable, worthwhile, lovable men out there for all of you.
Yep. My ex is a white guy who only ever dated south asians (including me) until he became a deranged personality disordered alcoholic. Now he's a bald passport bro "digital nomad" who tries to stay in Thailand as long as the country will let him. Crazy how women in the east are disproportionately exposed to the worst western society has to offer.
Just to give a different perspective, I know quite a few European men who were in trouble with the law in their own country and they fled to Asia for a few years in an effort to hide out until the trouble in their home country died down. Another reason to avoid white men who live or have lived in Asia. I also know lots of men who emigrated to Asia to avoid paying child support.
Just because he was married before moving to Asia, doesn't mean that Asian fetishism has nothing to do with it, though.
I also include in this group the men who go to poor sex tourism destinations in Asia (Thailand, Philippines) on vacation alone. In the west that includes countries like Colombia, Brazil, Dominican Republic, and Cuba.
A black friend of mine who lived in China said there was a subset of expat men she met there who would never date local/Asian women. They were the exception.
Thank you for warning us. I know it was so hard for you to put all your trauma out like that ❤️ We WOC need to stick together
I will only disagree in that it absolutely does apply to married men, too.
I lived in Thailand (for a research project) for a year, and as a white western women, worked with and met many of these scrotes. Not a good one in the bunch, married or not. A few tried to coerce me despite decrying how "ugly" western women are.
So, nope. Stay far away, very wide berth, Queens.
Thank you for sharing. I always thought white men who have a fascination with the Asian culture were weird. And I know a few men who have mentioned wanting to live in [inset Asian country] - and there was something off about them too. So red flag if they talk about wanting to live in an Asian country, even though they never had the opportunity to do so.
I especially do not trust men (esp white men) who move to Thailand/Phillippines. They are likely gross creeps with no social skills looking for bangmaid sex slave.