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I posted this as a comment on someone else's post a little while ago, but I think it's important enough to be a post in itself.
I have a policy that I implement ruthlessly:
When a man I am not yet in a relationship with (i.e., just dating or chatting with) sends me a one-word or one-syllable text without explanation or follow-up, I block and delete immediately. There are no second chances.
Monosyllabic responses (in the Anglosphere) are extremely disrespectful, and I wish other women would see them for the insults they are. When a man sends you one-word or one-syllable texts, he is saying that he does not give a fuck about you and considers you lowlier than a prostitute.
If he is a native/fluent English speaker and can't be bothered to text you complete sentences (or at least well-considered fragments), then he is letting you know, in no uncertain terms, that he will put forth absolutely no effort in whatever situationship you have going on.
The only response is to block and delete.
(I understand this may be relevant to English speakers only.)
I’ve never experienced this with a man but I had a friend who would do this. I had a hard time figuring out why it bugged me, but you’re right-it’s simply rude. One time I texted her that I was having a hard time with a breakup & she texted me back “yikes”. Anyway, I cut her off months ago & I feel so much better because of it lmao.
Yeah a real conversation goes back and forth. When someone gives one word responses, it gives you nothing to respond to. For example, if you say something like "I'd a really nice curry in town the other day", and the other person says "Really? What restaurant was that in?", that continues the conversation. In contrast, if the other person responds with "OK" or a thumbs up emoji, that effectively shuts down the conversation. This stuff is basic conversation skills and what good is a man who lacks even basic conversation skills?!
I get annoyed when men act like I need to think of topics that we can talk about. I had some dude wanting to start a conversation so I asked what did he want to talk about and he gave me a lazy answer saying "I'm all yours we can talk about anything" So I said goodbye right away.
He took it quite well and didn't ask why, maybe because he's used to women finding him boring.
A conversation with a person who respects you will always come from both sides even if he has no clue on what to say it costs a man nothing to ask women questions about their birth place, what do they miss the most there, are they enjoying the place they are living now, how do you see your future in 5 years? What are your hobbies? what's your favorite dinner or movie, music etc.
There is no excuse for a man to behave this way. because we all know they know exactly what to say when the topic falls on sex, If he has plenty to say about sex but doesn't know what to say to you non sex related then you are facing with a man child, imagine being married to a creature like that, it would be so dreadfully boring.
Yet another reason I am not giving out my cell phone number to any of these scrotes anymore, I'm taking it back OLD SCHOOL STYLE!
More women need to do this ⬆️
Ostensibly the reason men do the one word (esp as dating app intros) is because they figure they can because some woman is picking up the one word he put down and excitedly draping it over her face. They think it’s all you’re worth.
They know how. Watch how your well meaning but less fortunate app matches intro- the short guys, the old guys…magically, they seem to figure out how to craft a proper intro. They perceive you as having value relative to their own. Don’t waste time where you are not valued, you will not be invested in.
I was pretty good friends with a man who did this constantly for about 3-4 years. When he was talking about himself he was very animated, but his only response to anything I said about something I wanted to talk about was mostly “Lol” or “Yikes.” For some reason I’ve always put up with a lot more with friends than romantic relationships, but this year that changed. I ended two pretty close, long-term friendships because of how one-sided they were.
Yasss Queen! 100% truth!
It's amazing how whenever I consulted people I know about this issue with a guy, they would always say "some guys just hate texting" because the bar for men is simply that low and they can get away with anything
YOU'RE RIGHT AND YOU SHOULD SAY IT.
I think this is true for most languages, but if it only happens once, when the person is clearly working or very busy I wouldn’t be so ruthless.
It depends on the vibe in general, if he’s not texting or only sending you one syllable then yes, block and delete at the first sign of disinterest. But this is true also for friends.